One Year Update: I’m Transformed!

So, a year and four months ago I made a sob post about how I got myself into a horrible situation with a man at work. A man who was a liar and cheater. Four months later after upping my networking game and applying like crazy, I accepted an offer for a position that was much better than where I had been. I accepted that the company that continuously rewarded a man capable of lying and cheating was not a good place for me. I opened my eyes and saw how many of the other people at that company have a similar lack of integrity and that is why they love him. My last four months there were awful as he started a smear campaign, telling people how I had been horrible to him and damaged him (even though he was the one with a second girlfriend at least part of the time). I got to see him shower gifts to other women, have those women come to me and tell me how wonderful he is. It was unpleasant to say the least.

Well, I got my job offer. I turned in my 2 weeks notice and tied up all my loose ends at work. I walked out the door my last day and blocked every single person at that company from my phone and social media. I deleted that work experience from my LinkedIn and then blocked anyone from that company who kept viewing my profile.

A year ago I started my new role. I'm so much happier. I get so much more respect. I realize that the cheater was not the only issue at that job - the entire company was the issue. I have genuine colleagues now. I'm valued. I now know why the lying cheater is a manager at my old company - the entire place is corrupt. I was there for less than 3 years but only saw the corruption the last 6 months.

I have been on a few first dates, but no second dates. I cut men off quickly now. At the slightest sign of disrespect, I just leave or block them. I have actually not gone on a date in two months as I have cut them all off before even meeting them. I have no patience for their bs. I find myself happier spending an evening with my dogs watching a documentary than even talking to a man. I don't know if that is growth, or just a sign that I'm done with men...but I think I'm done with men.

But I have a better job, I have more money, and more professional respect. I refuse to ever be in a situation like the one I was in 1.5 years ago. Never Again.