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Hello everyone! As a lurker of the original Female Dating Strategy on Reddit, it was about time I joined the community on here! I have been lurking the community ever since it was made, and it inspires me still to this day. However while I studied the handbook and various of posts, I am still not where I want to be. For instance, I have little love for myself, my boundaries are garbage, and while I am an adult I am still not independent. I am also autistic, so even the simplest of things can be challenging for me. However I am done with self sabotaging myself! It is about time that I took charge of my own life, because no one else is. I am going to be the writer of my own story, I am going to make the rules, and I am going to be my own hero.
That is why I am going to start my own Level Up Journey. I know that the journey is not easy, and while I will stumble and make mistakes, that will not push me back! I also realized that this isn’t a change in one day kind of thing. It is going to take time and I have to be patient. Before when I tried to level up, I got discouraged because I wasn’t at the level I wanted to be right away. Now I know that I have to take things slowly, and add new HV habits one by one.
For the rest of this month and September, I am going to be focusing on my executive functioning skills! This is something I really really need to work on, and it’s something that I need to improve on before improving other aspects of my life. Listed below are goals I want to accomplish this month:
▶️ I am going to go to bed at a reasonable time every night, at the same time. Going to put some time aside to wind down to put me in the mood to want to go to sleep (like listening to relaxing music, stretching, etc).
▶️ Get up at the same time every morning, and having enough time to get ready for the day. Going to make sure my phone is far away so I actually have to get out of bed to turn off my alarm.
▶️ Manage my time wisely between all of my responsibilities. Going to take advantage of to do lists, calendars, and especially alarms!
▶️ Work on my focus skills, especially when it comes to school and job searching. Going to work on minimizing distractions and rewarding myself when I complete what needs to get done.
Congrats and this is so great that you’re working on your level up journey. I’m not sure if you saw but we actually have an accountability thread (see Life coaching category for previous posts) where many of us will comment weekly on our goals and provide feedback and comments. This helps hold each other accountable and to be a show progress and growth. We post on Monday the goals (see pinned comment for this Mondays one) we have for upcoming week and then we post on Sunday- reflections where we we talk about how our past week went, wins and challenges and strategies on how to address it. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions 🥰
Congratulations on starting your journey! You got this! Remember to praise yourself for all your accomplishments to get used to building love for yourself. I am also on a leveling up journey and on days where I am not perfect I make sure to be kind to myself anyway. I praise myself just for making my bed even if I slacked on everything else. Whenever I stop negative self-talk, I take a mindful moment to celebrate myself and my small bit of progress. At first it feels awkward to be nice to yourself especially when you don’t really mean it, but starting small really helped me to start believing my positive affirmations. Wishing you all the best!
all the best, queen! ♥️
Go queen. Fellow lurker and fellow autistic here! Will be happy to follow your journey. I feel your pain when it comes to executive function and how it can impede independence!