I swear the MeN aReN't MiNd ReAdErS comment is used to enable men's shitty behaviour. They can clearly understand when someone is uncomfortable or disinterested, they just get off on pushing boundaries.
There is no 'right' way to say no to a LVM who is determined to get into your pants. I have said the word no repeatedly and still they kept asking and pushing, they are just sadistic LVM who enjoy hurting women and getting them to do stuff they don't want to.
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Nov 20, 2022
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SAME. I said “I cannot consent to anything” and a guy still continued. I warned him if he kept trying that there would be consequences. That worked. If you get a potential rapist, tell them you will tell others, that you WILL fight back if they try. You will not take it lying down.
I recently had to quit listening to one of my favorite bands from my younger years (that are still going) because the singer was in non-enthusiastic consent situations (that he admitted to, in writing, then retracted after five months of "therapy") and just engaging in all-around scummy male behavior. The worse part was the amount of fans who were standing up for him because he had been drinking, he was sad, blah blah blah. Weird how that's not an excuse that works for sexual assault victims, though, right? Tossed out my merch. Fucking done.
I’m in recovery from alcoholism and it straight up baffles me how many men will excuse their past behaviour against women because they were drinking.I’ve truly heard some men in AA own their bad behaviour but these men are generally now in their 70s with 30-something years of sobriety behind them.
"Want to get lunch tomorrow?" "Ah.. I'd love to, but I already made plans. Maybe another time."
"Would you be able to pick up X on your way?" "Sorry, I'm already almost there.""Would you like some more water?" "I'm good. Thanks."etc. etc. etc.
In any other context, it's more common to use a soft no, but men only understand "NO!" and fighting when it comes to women not wanting to have sex with them?
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I swear the MeN aReN't MiNd ReAdErS comment is used to enable men's shitty behaviour. They can clearly understand when someone is uncomfortable or disinterested, they just get off on pushing boundaries.
There is no 'right' way to say no to a LVM who is determined to get into your pants. I have said the word no repeatedly and still they kept asking and pushing, they are just sadistic LVM who enjoy hurting women and getting them to do stuff they don't want to.
I recently had to quit listening to one of my favorite bands from my younger years (that are still going) because the singer was in non-enthusiastic consent situations (that he admitted to, in writing, then retracted after five months of "therapy") and just engaging in all-around scummy male behavior. The worse part was the amount of fans who were standing up for him because he had been drinking, he was sad, blah blah blah. Weird how that's not an excuse that works for sexual assault victims, though, right? Tossed out my merch. Fucking done.
Men use soft nos all the time.
"Want to get lunch tomorrow?" "Ah.. I'd love to, but I already made plans. Maybe another time."
"Would you be able to pick up X on your way?" "Sorry, I'm already almost there." "Would you like some more water?" "I'm good. Thanks." etc. etc. etc.
In any other context, it's more common to use a soft no, but men only understand "NO!" and fighting when it comes to women not wanting to have sex with them?
JUST COMMUNICATE
Dude, fuck off.
Too bad all the women before who gave men the hard no ended up fucking murdered for it. We really can't win.