It’s okay to be you.

I’ve been reading a lot of posts about women who are in their late 20’s-30’s talking about how they’ve never had sex before or achieved any other milestones. They feel pressured and insecure that they haven’t had sex given their age. I am in the same boat and in my 30’s. I spent some time thinking about this a lot, and I’ve come to my own conclusions.

I don’t think that the first time having sex with a guy is special. I don’t romanticize my first night. I always think to myself ok after we have sex, then what? What are the consequences that I’ll have to live with? Instead, I think what’s special is the fact that I’m able to hold off and wait for someone who’s committed to me. I know it’s corny in this generation, but that’s how I truly feel, and I’m double-downing on this notion.

I don’t care if I’ll end up alone. I would rather be alone in my thoughts then be with the wrong person for the rest of my life.