If you feel bad about being single….

If you get the spreadsheet out for the cost benefit analysis, what you discover is that women have needed men for 3 things historically: 1) financial support, 2) social support and 3) children. As we like to remind people, sex is a "want" and not a "need", as it's not necessary for survival, but if all you really want is the act, it's easy enough to get it casually as men have always done.

As (Western) women can work and vote now, we only NEED men for sperm. If a woman is averse to using a sperm bank, then once she has the children she wants, she doesn't actually need a relationship with a man any longer if that's all that he brought to the table. She has her family, her friends, her job and her child.

Respect all the women who came before us (and the women still living in regressive misogynist cultures today) who would be punished or impoverished for leaving an unequal, or even abusive, relationship -- GTFO of a shitty relationship with all the social and monetary riches that you have as a modern woman. We do all those trapped women a disservice by staying because of petty worries about what "people might think".

I think people are going to look at her appearance and think that this talk was just a coping mechanism; but any woman is going to have male interest because they are a woman.

My personal growth was never more stunted than when I was with an LVM.

I have been married. I love being single. It cannot compare at all. ALL of the best years of my life have been while I'm single (both before and after marriage, and specifically while not having a boyfriend). Honestly, it would take a complete unicorn of a person to change that statistic. I don't think it's realistic. Single is better for me, by far, and always has been.

I love being single. I have spent the past nine years single, no dating and no sex. I have a young son and not only do I not have time for a relationship, but I find I don’t want one. I like making all the parenting decisions myself, I like being in charge of my house, coming and going as I please, not having a man’s expectations of how a woman should be or look thrust upon me. I have literally met ONE man in the past nine years that I considered dating but he turned out to be concealing a girlfriend, which just reminded me that I barely had time for a relationship let alone to deal with men who’d be wasting my time or trying to use me like that man did. I don’t think I have ever felt not lonely in a relationship. Men are generally really self-absorbed and don’t consider how their actions and moods affect their female partners because they see us as appliances who exist to serve them, to complement their lives. Many men generally don’t care that they’re supposed to be a source of emotional and practical support for their wives because that would require them “serving” her, which they won’t do, no matter how much serving she does for him. Growing up though I didn’t idealize marriage. My mother was a SAHM to four kids, we emigrated to another country and I watched my mother work her ass off to the point of exhaustion and saw her work was under appreciated. It wasn’t that my father was lazy either, he worked 12 hour days as a doctor and was always exhausted himself, it was just the way things were.

I rarely feel anything about it. I'm sure a good partnership is life-enriching. But it seems a very remote possibility given the single men I've met over a lifetime. I did online dating for about a decade, and very rarely found even any attractive men. I look around everywhere I go, and it's the same. I don't know if it's just the part of the country I live in, or what.

I feel comfortable and completely functional being a single woman and making decisions. The biggest adversary I've had in this life has been myself (my work ethic could use some tweaking/improvement) and my mother. My mom has been married forever and I swear, she seethes with envy that I can walk out the door at any given hour of the night or day. It wouldn't bother me if she didn't voice her opinion as her being a married woman what she thinks a single woman/her daughter does or what she thinks I "should" be doing. The one thing that remains the same- whether I'm broke or if I ever got rich, I'd still choose to remain single. During my sad attempts at dating apps preFDS, I mentioned in my bio to not wanting men that are "stressful" and many of them took it offensively like.. well if you're not a stressful person then why you mad?

At times I do feel bad but I remember a few years ago that I felt worse in a potential relationship, Men seem to act like invaders in your life like they are only there for their own gain. They all want me to cook for them or try to invite themselves over for a meal calling me Mommy.. No I won't. I rather be by myself and feel the satisfaction of my career than cater to a man-child who will replace me for a gold digger anyway.

Thank you for sharing this video! It was enlightening! Be strong, Ladies! <3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=babcNWX64yM

What a time to be alone! Releasing the fear of being alone. | Chidera Eggerue

This one is great too !

I like the idea of marriage and motherhood at times but I also want to be nr one in my life. When I enter the grave I enter it alone so nobody not even the best man in the world or the sweetest child that has ever been born is worth giving your dreams up for. You don't know if there is an afterlife we you'll skip around and be happy in an eternal eutopia of your choice, chances are high that you'll just return to the empty void you came from.

And you can't be nr one in your life with kids, I've seen mothers even on here lie that they put themselves first, " If I need to go somewhere I'll take my baby with me" You call that putting yourself first? That's just coping with child rearing alone while dear old husband sits on his ass.

Putting yourself first means that other ppl around you know their place, and that's second or even below that.

The ppl I love and respect are second place, It's for my own protection because who says those people love you just as much as you love them? In general ppl just want to be coddled and use others, especially men in relationships, they are never there for just you.

I'm always asked why I don't have a man, or never talk about having kids well it's because If I have them they'll never be first. It's either second place or no place at all. I will never bow down.

Yet heaps of pick me women sacrifice so much of their life years to cater to men and be a child rearing slave so that he won't be affected by anything and just move on to the next piece of ass in the long run. As a former pickme I understand where they are coming from but I hope they'll snap out of that and recognize their worth, 98% of women of their deathbed mourn the dreams they couldn't follow, wishing they did something better with their lives. I rather be the 2%.

I've heard that talk, and she didn't convince me. But I get how it might feel good to some.