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After all these years of wanting a bilateral salpingectomy as a childfree woman, I finally got mine yesterday at age 26 in a somewhat conservative state of all places!!
Before I lived in a liberal big city and even there was such a hard, miserable time finding a doctor willing to do this for me. I even had a male insurance agent tell me I should go to therapy first lmao. As if he expects mentally ill women to be incubators too??
Anyway, I chose getting a bisalp over a tubal ligation since removing your fallopian tubes completely is safer and way more effective w no chance of reversal verses getting your tubes tied. With a tubal ligation, there's a chance of it reversing itself and it increases the risk of ectopic pregnancy yeah so hard pass. Plus a bisalp is just as invasive as a tubal so might as well go for the better option.
While Reddit is an incel cesspool, there are good FDS aligned advice resources on r/childfree and I found my doctor from their list of childfree friendly doctors. My doctor who performed my bisalp is a father but he was super chill during my 5 min consultation! He agreed that the US political climate is getting increasingly oppressive for women and that I'm more than old enough to decide getting this procedure for myself which was a HUGE relief. I was ready to argue lol, but he approved my bisalp just like that and we got it scheduled 2 weeks out.
It was a much smoother process and recovery so far than I expected! They had me on anethesia of course so when I woke I was super tired and so happy to see my 3 tiny insicions, two of them on the side my lower belly and one inside my belly button. The nurses were kind, never questioned my choice either and I went home, rested and can already walk around without a problem. My stomach and my shoulder are slightly sore mainly from the gas they pumped in me but thats it.
I can finally be at peace in my own body! And if you're childfree too and considering, def go for it! Bc who knows if this patriarchal country bans sterilization too 🙃
and if anyone tries to tell me I'll change my mind about kids again, I'll sweetly tell them my tubes are in a biohazardous trashcan somewhere<3
EDIT: Good post I found on vetting as someone who's childfree:
https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/9xo6jw/screening_starter_kit_the_reprise/
I also heard that not just the majority of cancers that start in female reproductive organs start in the fallopian tubes, but 100% start in the fallopian tubes, so you saved yourself the risk of ovarian cancers and all the rest of it.
I'd be careful telling future males about this though. Especially in the first 3 months, as many males will see that as even better benefit for them that they can use you for sex and never have consequences of a child. During the vetting , i would make clear I was childfree, but skip the I'm sterile part, until they prove they won't use that to their advantage.
I say this from experience. I am infertile, and I made the mistake of telling one guy I dated for 9 months. I also told him I was anti marriage. And one day he exclaims, "You are like the perfect woman! I can't get you pregnant, AND you will never want to force me to marry you!" Aka I can use you all that I want and never suffer any consequences. It was so icky when he said that to me.
Congratulations!!! What a relief for you. And not having to be on birth control anymore is fantastic for your body. I got my bi-salp in Canada at the age of 19. The childfree subreddit was a great resource in helping me present my case and I had the sterilization binder and everything. I started the process basically on my 18th birthday and it took me a year of fighting for it. Now I’m someone who has no interest in dating men again, they’re just not worth the potential problems, however when I was still open to dating, a man who didn’t have a vasectomy was a deal breaker for me. I agree with the other women telling you not to disclose until you hear the man’s stance on it. They flip flop too much on the issue. And if someone’s really serious about being childfree, I believe they will take their fertility into their own hands and not leave it to chance. Or a man who claims they “tried” getting a vasectomy but was told no, is an even bigger red flag in my opinion. Because they didn’t fight for themselves. If you really want something, you find a way to get it. You think I got a yes on my first try? No, I fought for that shit. I needed 2 surgeons to sign off for my surgery to be approved. I did that as a 19 year old woman. So anytime I see men in their 20s, 30s, whatever on the subreddit claiming they got denied and then just gave up, I roll my eyes and think well they weren’t all that serious about it in the first place.
As a fellow childfree woman, congrats, that is awesome!!!!  talk about complete peace of mind!
When I was your age exactly, a horrible condescending doctor told me I was much too young to make such a decision.  My blood still boils thinking about it.
Scrote ex ended up getting a vasectomy. The way he carried on you would think he was getting a limb chopped off.
I’m so happy for you!
I had my tubes tied because I didn’t realise that bisalp was an option. I’m really happy with it, though I did develop severely heavy periods about six months afterwards. Then I had an endometrial ablation which fixed the heavy bleeding.
Congratulations!!!
Congrats! And omg the comment about men considering women not mentally stable enough to make this decision but perfectly acceptable to become moms. Unbelievable
I appreciate the woman in the link warning other women of reproductive coercion. I usually hate gender neutral language in cases like these, but it's fine because u don't want men sending her a barrage of death and rap threats for telling it like it is.
Does this prevent you from getting cervical cancer? do you still get your period and ovulate? How much does it cost? I’ve never heard of this procedure but it sounds like a good one on A lot of accounts