Hi everyone, I'm a long time lurker. I feel as though I have the opposite problem from many on this site. I'm 28 years old, in a wonderful marriage, but I really struggle with finding like-minded female friends. I live in a Bible Belt state in the US, and as a non-religious person who isn't a republican, the vast majority of women I meet I simply have nothing in common with. The ones who are more progressive tend to have the libfem/pickme mentality, like "loosen up girl! Idc if my husband goes to the strip club!" You all get the idea I'm sure. I do have quite a few long distance friendships that I formed in college (I also was raised in a different part of the country), but even those friends tend to fall on one side or the other. Can anyone relate or offer advice?
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Pursue your hobbies and interests to find like-minded friends. At the very least you’ll find women to relate to on that front and that’s a great place to start. Get yourself a rotation of friendly acquaintances and maybe some of those could blossom into good friendships. If nothing else, time spent pursuing your passions is never a wasted effort.
As an introvert, I’ve preferred Bumble BFF over Meetup or other group events. Then you can state some of your political/social leanings in your profile, helping to filter for the rare other ladies who would make suitable HVW friends. I’ve found that making and keeping friends as an adult is a constant effort but worth it!
Look up meetup.com see what groups are in your area. See if there are any female only groups, or if the mixed groups are run by a woman.
I relate to this 10000%. Same age, married, in the south, and I struggle making friends as well.
I have joined a charitable organisation that I like. The women there seem very friendly and welcoming, and I'm sure there are future friendships and aquaintances to be found there.
I have had luck finding friends at library groups. I take my son to storytimes, so I know everyone's experience will be different, but the other moms there are generally very friendly. I always look at the calendars and see events for everything from holistic classes, painting, etc. It might be fun to see what your library networks have to offer on their monthly calendars.
If you have a recreation center, that could be another option. I would walk on the track and see women playing badminton and I know my rec center did pottery classes.
Also, if you have a local women's center, you may be able to take free classes on subjects that interest you :)