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ETA: If you are the only person who can take care of the baby "perfectly" then you will be the person doing the lions share of the work. Being the only "expert" on your baby upholds the inequity of the motherhood role. It's a rod for your own back.
Do you want the baby bathed? Or do you want the baby bathed perfectly?
"Birthing parent"😵💫 somebody please help leftist women
Bullshit! I was the expert on our baby and my ex-husband respected that. He saw all the work I put in and listened to what I said. When I left him with the baby we were all happy and confident (because he did what worked for baby NOT HIM).
I’ll slate my ex plenty but at least he wasn’t an insecure dick that couldn’t recognise that me doing the majority of the child rearing made me the one in charge. I’m a great cook and at one point he said, he was going to make curry his thing because he needed a thing. Fucking brilliant! And he made good curry.
My relationship history is hardly a lesson in what to do but when I read crap like this I appreciate my ex wasn’t totally scrotey.
I feel like you’re all missing the point of the article. As far as I can see, it’s encouraging women to let go of some of the mental load of parenting. Rather than being the only source of all the information about the child, it’s telling the mother to not micromanage every step.
I’m married with two children btw, and my husband has the children with him most of the time after school and wknds.
I grew that child in my womb and carried her for nine months, sharing everything with her--every bite of food, every sip I drank, my very blood and breath. I felt her moving from her earliest stirrings of life. I birthed her, fed her from my body, and carried her against my skin until she was old enough to walk on her own. I stayed up through long nights with her when she was sick, when she was hungry, when she was cold, when she was wet, when her teeth were emerging and she was in pain, when she simply needed the comfort of my voice and breast. I was the center of her world and entire existence for the first years of her life, and we were never apart more than a few hours at a time until she was toddling around and even then, when she fell and bumped her knee, what did she cry out? "MAMAAAAA!"
There is no universe in which I am not the subject matter expert on my babies. Die mad about it.
I can relate. The worst thing that happeneď in my life was the non consensual conception of my child. And the following, unrelenting, irrational, unreflected and one-sided dumping of any and all responsibility by all older adults with more time, money and means who had blackmailed me to make me follow through - on me - just because I have 2X chromosomes. I was restricted from sleeping, studying, walking outside, reading. I was even reported to cps for starting my career. As an individual relative was adamant I shall be forbidden from working for money outside the house and should be forced to be put on welfare. When you birth a child you come to find out how mediveal society still views your role. (Same is not true for men. They dont have to court, provide or go to War. They can rape without consequence, too. They are expected to rub their peepee, spread pathogens on Tinder & Feeld and to work only for themselves) If you think this is fair enough & like to be a stay at home Baby machine- fine. But don't assume this fits the personality of the woman next to you.
Even though they did this to me I am recently married & in the top 2% of income now. But I had to reject every gender based expectation around child rearing to get there.