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I teach as a sub sometimes. And when I come across a young man who seems to be on the fast-track to scrotery, I try to find a way to broaden his mind. Of course, always in an educationally appropriate way.
Today, a male student was riding too close to “uncomfortable nature facts” (getting in girls’ faces and talking about how mammals breastfeed their young). So I agreed that nature can make people uncomfortable, and then educated him about species in which the female eats the male. He was seriously freaked out that female praying mantises eat the male after mating, in order to nourish the future babies.
I made it clear that this is “the most beautiful sacrifice a father can make,” for his future children. And didn’t he think it was wonderful?
Mission accomplished. 🤭
I enjoy reminding men about all the animal species in which the male is the smaller and weaker one, because he is usually killed after mating - either to provide nourishment for the future babies (many spiders and other bugs do this), or because his sexual organs get ripped out of his body when he pulls out (as with bees).
In cases where the male is not getting killed, often he is still much smaller than the female, and he is the one who is brightly colored, flamboyant, and doing ALL of the pursuit of a female - whether that’s performing a special dance, creating a beautifully symmetrical sand sculpture garden under the sea, or spending weeks selecting the perfect rock to entice her to join his company. Males of other species work HARD and sacrifice a lot to have a mate and/or reproduce.
This is actually what I love so much about Canada’s Dating Coach (on Instagram and other social media; she also has a podcast). She models her work off of the biology of how females and males interact in nature, rather than the modern rules of human dating. It makes so much sense when she explains it, and she is very open to having hard conversations with guys who have strong opinions about dating culture and want to argue with her about her rules. She schools them so hard and many of them concede, by the end, that her rules make logical sense.