This happened to me with my ex. Broke up with me horribly, better say he low key ghosted me while I was abroad and I had to take a flight to get dumped. Then gave me mixed signals for 6 months. Finally I sent him a final email where I announced I was going NC and why (I was too kind, but at that point we had been a thing for almost 10 years).
He literally IGNORED me and kept sending me emails every 5/6 months for the next 2 years. To this day, I feel that those emails were the cruelest thing he did to me. I was alone abroad with no support network, and each time I was getting better, I would find one in my inbox. Some I opened and didn't reply. Some I opened and did reply, reiterating to leave me alone. Some others I didn't even open or read. Eventually Gmail came up with the block function (or I figured out how to do it) and I never heard from him again. It was an extremely stressful experience, but it taught me something valuable. True healing comes with indifference. Not with living in fear of contact.
This happened to me with an ex who kept sending me emails after breaking up with me (because he still wanted to monopolize my time and attention, despite not wanting me in his life). After the third one (with no reply from me), I replied "please remove me from this mailing list".
I've seen the same post on x2chromosome reddit sub. He still doesn't want her in his life but wants to have her on a leash with hopes he'll be a man she deserves.
Men who write apology letters are manipulative. There is nothing sweet about it.
It's better to regret not giving a man no second chances than regret giving them. You lose nothing when you regret casting them out of your life but you lose plenty when you give them another chance to screw you over.
Men who write apology letters are manipulative. There is nothing sweet about it.
Yes.
My last ex had told me a story about a girl he met while he was on a trip. They had a long distance relationship (at least two states between them) and he went to visit her twice per month. The first, and only, time that she visited him was when he said that there seemed to be a "shift" in their relationship.
Long story short, she ended up ghosting him after she went on a trip. He admitted to me that he wrote her a long email about not understanding what happened, wanting an explanation, etc. I felt bad for him, but I also thought it was a bit much since she basically made it clear from ghosting him that there wasn't anything more she felt with him. My question to him was, "Did you get a response?" He told me that she didn't respond for a month, and even when she did, it was something halfhearted like, "I guess we could talk on the phone about it" and she never called him.
With the jackass he turned out to be, it gave me peace of mind that he made a fool out of himself.
Isn’t return to a sender a response though? It’s like telling someone you’re going to block them before blocking them. I’d have just thrown it in the trash and left him wondering 🤷♀️
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Jul 23, 2023
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I totally see your point and it's certainly a response. If I had to guess, OP probably felt some joy in letting him know that the time he spent crafting his letter was wasted and he didn't reach her at all with what he'd wanted to say.
But yes, that response caused her more mental energy than simply throwing the letter out. Definitely agree!
I get that she did this to stroke her ego, but this action negatively impacted the environment because of the emissions from fuel to transport the letter back, and also wasted a postal workers time, who are already overburdened!
Men like that don’t deserve closure. She should have let him die mad.
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Jul 23, 2023
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I imagine she did it to discourage him from sending any more letters. I highly doubt that she did it to give him closure.
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This happened to me with my ex. Broke up with me horribly, better say he low key ghosted me while I was abroad and I had to take a flight to get dumped. Then gave me mixed signals for 6 months. Finally I sent him a final email where I announced I was going NC and why (I was too kind, but at that point we had been a thing for almost 10 years).
He literally IGNORED me and kept sending me emails every 5/6 months for the next 2 years. To this day, I feel that those emails were the cruelest thing he did to me. I was alone abroad with no support network, and each time I was getting better, I would find one in my inbox. Some I opened and didn't reply. Some I opened and did reply, reiterating to leave me alone. Some others I didn't even open or read. Eventually Gmail came up with the block function (or I figured out how to do it) and I never heard from him again. It was an extremely stressful experience, but it taught me something valuable. True healing comes with indifference. Not with living in fear of contact.
I remember this post. A lot of people congratulated her on not reading it.
This gives women the strength to go about no contact. I think men are getting a bit
I've seen the same post on x2chromosome reddit sub. He still doesn't want her in his life but wants to have her on a leash with hopes he'll be a man she deserves.
Men who write apology letters are manipulative. There is nothing sweet about it.
It's better to regret not giving a man no second chances than regret giving them. You lose nothing when you regret casting them out of your life but you lose plenty when you give them another chance to screw you over.
I'm proud of this woman for not reading her ex's letter.
I think this is the perfect reply. Men who do things like this need to know thet their control over a woman has ended.
Isn’t return to a sender a response though? It’s like telling someone you’re going to block them before blocking them. I’d have just thrown it in the trash and left him wondering 🤷♀️