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She creeps into pickme territory for sure. Men just tell on themselves over and over, we are all already aware that men are the ones benefitting from marriage.
He isn't a prize sis, he's just another dusty looking for new/different women to use and objectify.
If he wants to, he will, but that doesn't mean you have to accept just because he's standing there 😂
Both things are true and women need to at least know about both philosophies before making decisions.
I would have made different mistakes had I had FDS knowledge.🤷🏽♀️ But the mistakes I have made post FDS have not been as extreme or detrimental to my well being. Also, the penalties for wasting another person’s time are different…Arguably, a man wasting a woman’s time from 18-40 is more harmful than a woman wasting a man’s time. Financially, emotionally, etc…
I have an ex that prob went on to marry someone else and although I wouldn’t want to be married to him, I still have the occasional grief pang that I haven’t met anyone serious since him and I’m trying to have peace that I might not be in another relationship ever whereas it’s easy for men to move on. I know it’s not me but it can still hurt.
It's fine if a man isn't ready, but he should not waste woman's time. If they aren't ready they shouldn't date women who want marriage.
I mean she had me until she made fun of that advice of "If he wanted to, he would" and going off about how we should put the onus on men for not being able to choose correctly or whatever. Like I do understand her trying to logic this out because deep down, her ex getting married must've hurt her pretty badly when she heard about it, and it looks like she's still a bit embittered about it.
While it is true that some men can certainly get into a serious relationship or get married to a woman that they don't believe is the best girl for him ever, the truth is those relationships either never last for long before it implodes, or it does drag on for many years but it is an extremely unhappy situation for both people in it. So no, I don't think that Yellow Cab Light Theory is true, either. Yes, she might get the ring from him, but she'll never has his heart in all honesty.
Eventually, as soon as the man meets The One, he will stop at nothing to get her. He dumped this woman in the video because she wasn't The One and he knows it. His wife might be The One, maybe not, but either way, if there's one thing I know for certain, is that once he does find her, nothing will stop him. Hence the if he wanted to, he would advice.
Also, I never ever EVER believe in the one that got away bullshit. Men invented that so that they can fuck their exes quickly and easily. Girl, come on!
"If he wanted to, he would" does out the onus on the man... it's literally saying he isn't doing something because he doesn't want to- not that you're not good enough 🥴🥴🤡🤡!??!?!? It's legit the opposite.
Somehow I see what she is trying to say. Just like how it was brought up in the podcast, if a man doesn't want you, he does not automatically become a LVM. It's ok to not take it personally. Every HVM is not going to like every HVW. It might be hard on one's pride/ego, but we can simply move on. 🤷♀️
Sure he might marry a woman in front of him at the right time. However, if she is not his 'dream girl',marriage won't stop him looking for the 'one'. Her case is an example of this. Getting in the cab at the yellow light is not something women should look forward to.
I think what she is doing with the theory is soothing her wounds " see he wanted me but time wast right so he ended up getting married to what was in front of her " nah !