OkCupid Answers Our Most Controversial Questions About Dating Apps (FDS PODCAST EP. 69)

In talking about the expanded reporting options on the dating sites, honestly, how much policing do women need to do of men's behavior before we just say forget it. If society has to coral men into behaving with basic human decency, what are we even doing wasting out time at this point? Like you guys say, sexless men become violent and are entitled. Is looking for the potential 1 piece of fresh fruit in a dumpster full of rotten food really worth the time and energy and risk to our emotional states?

Meh, I'm not convinced to rejoin dating apps. Women really are the product.

Gaaaaalsss- give the shy guy a chance Girrrrrlllllsss- how dare you want to find a guy who's attractive 🤡 M'kay

It doesn't matter what app you're on the guys ultimately behave the same way. I will never be on another dating app again, the ROI is too low and it destroys my energy. I might be a self identified "femcel"at this point. Still love you gals at FDS though!

Loved this weeks podcast up until advice was given from ok Cupid’s guest to “approach shy men”. Not sure how bad the algorithm is in the US but I deleted my profile after half a day here in Australia. Every single person was: poly, or already a couple looking for a third….

The podcast made me re download OkCupid and it was a mistake. The dudes there were ugly creeps, chronically online NEETS, and pick up artists. The only decently attractive men were looking for hookups and the convos I had with men who seemed to have lives suddenly got rude with them being mean to me??? I also kept getting intros from the UGLIEST dudes 28+ (I’m 22 and my setting was 21-24) with copy paste intros talking about loving my curves and how sexy I was. 🤮🤮🤮 I tried three different major cities and it was all the same. Also, I had TWO filters: don’t have kids and don’t want kids. It kept showing me single dads! IN NEW YORK CITY. Like??? You’re telling me in a city of millions of men you can’t just show me childfree men??? 😡 I will stick to meeting men in real life where I don’t have to swipe on men I’d literally never even glance twice at, let alone speak to. Waste of time and I regret checking it out again. Ugh.

I left OKC because let's face it, the men there are very lv. Eharmony was a joke too because men are in control of the dialogue. I'm not paying for dating apps and I'm not going anyplace where the men are disgusting, which is all of them. Even the vetted sites are full of horrible men. It requires an enormous amount of work to carefully mine OLD to weed out all of the rif raff to find someone worth meeting. I am not doing that work. I can get paid for that time doing work for an employer and actually be bettering my life. Hate to realize it's like that but really, there are more benefits in working all the time than in dating.

Personally, I feel that this woman hasn't been honest about the way okc functions. I have gotten banned and shadow banned, and I have never harassed anyone. I have, however, firmly scolded perverse men and had hard boundaries listed on the profile, including "The forbidden topic".

I couldn't finish this episode, it is too obvious that the guest is promoting her company. It was a waste of everyone's time, a long marketing rant about why this app is superior to others (because its freeeeee, and lets you do so many things!).

SPOILER alert! It's trash. OLD is trash. It's business that pimps out women to LVM.

Most men in my area use Bumble and Tinder, other apps tend to hate married, old ugly guys

I made an account for kicks, we'll see how long this lasts. I did actually put some effort in and answered a bunch of questions, and I didn't make my preferences tOo spECiFiC. As I'm sure it will surprise no one, I had 10+ likes as soon as my profile was active, and I hadn't even finished filling anything out! Currently, my profile is not even 24 hours old yet and I have 130+ likes. I've only liked a couple guys myself so far and I got one match, and he hasn't messaged yet. Given the above and everything we already know about dating apps, I really resent the OkCupid rep's insinuation that we need to 'help' these guys by messaging them first. Of course, I realize she has to promote her company, but I've been there done that in my twenties, and all it got me were lazy shirt bags who I don't think even liked me very much--I was just part of the insane mass swiping/liking that happens SO FAST I don't know if they spend that much time on the apps or some of them are running auto-liking algorithms now. I wouldn't put it past them tbh.

So yeah, don't message first, ever. They're the thirstiest, laziest hoes on this green earth and they'll say yes to whichever woman will have them and make her carry the entire relationship like Atlas holding the world.

After I listened to this episode I decided to try OkCupid because I recently made profiles on a couple other dating apps and I want to compare. So far this app has served up a ton more poly/married/couples looking-for-a-unicorn profiles, and I’m even being recommend women’s profiles even though my settings are heterosexual. I don’t like being shown those cheap, ugly ads that you can’t click out of for 15 seconds. That was a surprise! Didn’t the podcast guest say they didn’t show ads or did I mis-hear? Another issue, the qual of men I’ve been shown in my area seem worse than what Bumble, Hinge, Tinder are showing.

I’m not sure how long I’ll use OkCupid because I prefer meeting men in person and this doesn’t seem worth it so far, but the pandemic is not over.

I joined Okcupid after listening to them, and gosh, the men they suggest are scrotish!

I couldn’t listen to the whole podcast. IMO it just felt like consumerism to me. Promoting another dating app that just advertises more scrote men and disappointment to deal with. I tried Okcupid and deleted after a week. All dating apps are the same. I was quite disappointed in the topic choice of podcast tbh.

I feel like you ladies made this episode about me. The bulk of my OLD experience is from early 2010's OK Cupid times. Sadly my experience was bad because I was young and deeply influenced by Tumblr era 3rd wave feminism pickme-isms. Ironically the only long term aquantinces I still know I met on tinder and reddit. Once I got the interest of a man who would send multi-paragraph role-playing scenarios like, "you see someone is about to get run over by a speeding car what do you do?" I tried talking to him because it was funny but I didn't have the energy for writing mini novellas like a middle schooler on LiveJournal.

Loving the podcast! It’s my go to during my commutes to work…Thank you! Using this as an opportunity to encourage the ladies here who love this site and all the content as much as I do…consider becoming a patreon! I have no regrets and love supporting the ladies who keep this all rolling. 🔥

I really liked the questions for this one. Thanks Ladies 💟

I felt like this episode was a long commercial for OKC. Every time the guest spoke, she rambled on about how much better OKC is than the other dating apps, and how their questions and filters help you weed out shitty men, when apparently neither feature works as advertised. She dodged nearly every question the hosts asked (or answered in a roundabout manner that didn’t really say anything), just to bring the discussion back to “we’re better than those other dating apps”, and completely ignored the reality that all dating apps treat men as customers and women as the product. There are no apps that cater to women, because they’re not for us. We’re not the ones willing to pay.

First episode I couldn’t finish. Boring as hell. It felt like a date with a tech boy in SF haha

Ok cupid used to be free. Now it charges a lot. For women, it should be free for two reasons. Women are the product that draw the men who are able to pay. Women need to be able to vet the men they are communicating with on these apps for safety, and most of the features for doing so are behind a paywall. Women make less money than men in general so it is a big burden to ask so much from women for a dating site. As many low-quality men that exist on OLD, I don't like the idea of paying premium prices to sift through all the low-quality possibilities just to find a couple of good ones. I am not motivated to pay for finding a bunch of mediocre men when they are so easy to find.

I don't think the guest was prepared with the type of questions you guys were going to ask her lol. Other than that did great.