Bustle Mag Buries The Truth About Breeding Kinks

In all honesty - if a man cannot make you feel safe enough to have a child with (even if you do not want children), there is no point in dating him. I sympathized with what Savannah said regarding the exploitation of vulnerability especially after 50 shades came out because I'm part of the young generation that was aggressively bombarded by media & co with fetish/ king stuff since then. They target the newbies or women who aren't even into BDSM or kink because they see them as "fresh meat" and there's this circulated thing where "anyone can/ should? have a kink. Why can't they just be? Too many (young) men are self proclaimed doms (when did you start bro? at 12? by watching porn?) and they seem like they will disappear the moment they are faced with actual responsibility aka a child or something gone wrong after sex. Also, quick throwback to the episode with Lundy Bancroft - he said he tried reading 50 shades and simply couldn't do more than 20 pages because he got 9/12 red flags for abusive men just from that. The idea that a sex therapist can just encourage the readers to prompt their sexual partners to dehumanize them by using words such as "owning" or "claiming" is too disgusting for me to entertain. Once again, it goes back to thinking of women as cattle, breeding stock, just flesh. I am 100% against that.