"YOU NEED TO LOWER YOUR STANDARDS OR YOU'LL BE ALONE"

Cats are cleaner and have hair.

also, cats clean themselves better and pee in the right place

Yep. Same with dropouts and men on benefits. They loooove hating succesful women.

Their ugly personality is reflected on their faces.

girl, i go through this every f-ing time i discuss dating with basically any woman. i'm soooo tired of this i've decided once and for all to just pretend i'm in some sort of sabatical dating detox year to see if they stop telling me i'm too extreme, to harsh, should lower my standards or whatever. i just wish i could find like minded female friends. but it's so hard!

they talk as if i had never ever even tried dating a man in my entire life. my decisions are a RESULT of trying to date them and then LEARNING from my mistakes.

Yeah because of incidents like the one I described, I no longer discuss my dating life with people IRL. If I'm asked why I broked up with someone, I either say "I'd rather not talk about it" or something vague like "We wanted different things" and then I change the subject. It's sad that I can't have frank and honest conversations with other women about these things but that's just the way it is, I guess.

I understand what you’re saying. Also, communication is healthy. I fully expect my bf to clue me in if I did something he wasn’t okay with, and vice versa

If a hot guy fumbles you at least you were with a hot guy. If an ugly scrote fumbles you you still try to forget his balding, swollen face during orgasm

Orgasm? How can even one get an orgasm from an ugly guy?

He gets one obv and makes a weird face.

Yep.rather than being grateful and valuing you, the loser thinks it's HIM that's special.

My ex husband. I loved him and thought he was the most handsome even when covered in burn scars. Fucking loser was desperate for other women attention as time went on

Italy? I haven't had any issues as a woman there,but that was in the north.

And honestly Ansa, handbook says to avoid long winded chats before meeting and there are a lot of good reasons for this...

Guys feign and fake intimacy this way. So you feel there is a connection when there isn't shit at all until you've met and made that connection over months and months. No wonder you are thinking you "know" them so soon...

Also, anything you told him in these long-winded chats he's just going to try to mirror for you once you meet.

This is the BEST way for Narcs to get into your head before you even meet them and a great way for them to learn how to manipulate you.

Don't do this shit.

Keep it short and simple and give them little to no info.

This is EXACTLY the ways Narcs got me before. You think you're really building a connection with them and on the flip side they are just taking notes on how to manipulate you.

I wouldn't kiss a dude for fucking months until he proved himself to me. A HVM who likes you absolutely WILL wait.

Seriously, girl. Standards, red flags, STRONG boundaries, and re-read the handbook.

You're going out with these dudes with absolutely no armor on and no strategies. They talk to you for a week online, you kiss them right away, then get mad they played you. But where is your vetting and your standards?

I'm seriously not trying to be an asshole, I'm truly asking you to think about these things.

In our 30s, influencers shouldn't even be in the same sentence when we talk about the guys we are seeing. Don't go out with those types... duh. They are going to be fuckbois and play you.

Were you living there or just visiting? I think living there reveals a whole foundation of old school misogyny.