Who else is getting the feeling that he's taking advantage of her? I would like to give her a solution, but I'll get downvoted to hell. I think she should leave him and he can find another mommy/housekeeper.
It's sad that there are very few sane replies.
Edit: She said she's not going to leave him 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
She's beyond help
UPDATE: She deleted her post.
SECOND UPDATE: So OP probably got so triggered, she decides to stalk my profile and leave nasty comments. I reported each one. I hope they permanently ban her.
Oh my god I just saw the comment where she said the mother of these kids was her step sister! Am I reading this right? The step sister ODed and this man replaced his original partner with her step sister and now this woman is stuck living this way? There could be all kinds of family pressures making her feel she has to stay too. What a mess.
From her first line it sounds like she’s in hell, and it keeps getting worse with each sentence. She’s essentially his slave.
🚩 11-year age gap, starting at 20F/31M
🚩 She cares for HIS 4 children
🚩 The oldest kid is only 10 years younger than her! So she’s like the new oldest step-sibling who raises her siblings but sleeps with the father
🚩It's also bizarre how he even managed to have 4 kids by 31, and then got custody of all of them. What weird previous chapter of his life came before now?
🚩 Isolated in a rural location where he already has prestige and a network, and she is alone with no family or friends
🚩 She admits she’s lonely and bored. She has nothing of her own in life. No passions, social life, career, or hobbies.
🚩 Her best option for a few hours of escape is drinking and partying.
🚩 And the cherry on top: 8 dogs?!? that she also cares for, ensuring her every waking moment is spent dedicated to anyone or anything besides herself, guaranteeing she will be trapped forever until she summons the courage to escape.
The silver lining is that she says "partner" of 5 years, so if she wakes up, she can leverage her forever-girlfriend status and get the fuck out of there with no strings attached and never look back.
This whole ass post was a RED FLAG. Where to even begin. She basically put herself in a prison of his making.
She needs to GTFO ASAP. The longer she’s in a parental role to HIS kids the more likely she will get screwed in family court for “abandoning HIS children“ when she finally does leave him. She thinks she’s in a loving marriage, but she’s a free servant and guaranteed he knows it and pursued her when she was young and naive on purpose.
This whole thing is a mess why did she have to sleep with her BIL? Why not take care of the niblings from a distance as an aunt? Why become SisterWife and BrotherHusband? Why does socializing HAVE to be partying? Did the dead sister use drugs for socializing? Does this awkward dynamic maybe contribute to the loneliness? Honestly the whole couple is red flaggy 😬
I firmly believe in NOT dating any guy with children during your 20s. It just seems like one of tbe worst possible things you could do
Not everyone can be saved, and I have come to accept that. The disrespectful comments she made to that commenter made me not feel bad for her. 🤷🏽♀️ Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
There’s gaps in her story I’m almost afraid to ask about. This man was her BIL and she was 10 years old when his first child was born, does this mean he’s been in her life all this time? Did BIL always live 500 miles away or did they move there after SIL died? And OP solely owns the house they live in, why? Did she also solely buy it?
She was 16 when his youngest was born, and they’ve been together over 5 years, so there’s only a maximum <4 year span between when Stepsister died and OOP became a teenage stepmom.
It reminds me of the story of Steve/Brooke/Shelby which circulated Tiktok not too long ago. 31yo Steve and Brooke were married but she died in childbirth. He met 19yo Shelby at a mutual friends baby shower about 6-weeks after his daughter was born, hired her as a babysitter and within a year they were married with a baby and moved away from everyone.
Her boyfriend is a piece of shit, simply put.
I might be in the minority here, but I think she should dump him, his kids, and his dogs, and start a new life. Legally, she is nothing to them, so they should be nothing to her. She can report him to the appropriate authorities if she thinks the children and animals would be neglected without her.
I'm just wondering how she got to this low point in the first place. 🤦🏻♀️
You planted a seed. I hope she can get out and land in a soft place. This is heartbreaking. I can only take so much of these stories on a daily basis; and I think knowing how bad it was out there in the past contributed to my standards being lower as a pickme. "Other women tolerate men way worse than this, so maybe they just know how to love better/more unconditionally." She sounds naive and like she was possibly groomed into the situation knowing how deep the family dynamics lie. 🤢 Many good vibes to her, and to you for trying to help. ❤
I know she has to wake up SO badly, but I really don't like how she's being called stupid and an idiot in the comments here. She's one of our sisters who needs help... Despite her being one of the biggest and blindest pickme's I've seen in a while, I don't see how we're advancing women by putting her down even further.
I can't with her stupidity anymore.
So OP decides to stalk my reddit and decides to leave nasty comments. I reported the bitch for harassment
This woman’s life makes me sooo sad!! F that!!! I enjoyed Corgigal’s comment 👌
More updates. Others are trying to talk sense into her but she's not listening.
This is heartbreaking. I wish all women had FDS 😥