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I watch a life coach on YouTube who gives advice to people on various issues they face in life and twice I've come across stories of women supporting their sick and disturbed husbands.
Both women called in to talk about their husbands having inappropriate contact with minors. One lady talked about finding out that her husband, who works in a church and is in his 30s, was holding hands with a 13-year-old girl. I forget how the pastor and his wife of the church found out about this but the wife was told about by the pastor. When the life coach asked her why her husband did what he did, she said that he said that he was "stressed out" and "wanted to relive his younger years". The wife, while talking to the life coach, mentioned that the girl seemed to be "asking for it" because she was "biting her lip". Imagine a woman saying that about a child?! Even if a young girl was showing sexual behaviour, any normal person would be worried that she's clearly seen or had something of a sexual nature happen to her because it is not normal for a child to be acting in a sexualised manner. This woman, while trying to figure out how she could trust her husband, was implying that the girl was acting in a way that justified her husband's own behaviour. She wasn't at all concerned for the girl - she never expressed anger at her husband or worry for the girl. She just wondered how she could regain trust with her husband. My blood was boiling and I had to exit the video 😡😤.
The second lady talked about finding out this year, that back in 2006, her husband slept with a 16-year-old when he was 23. The lady and her now husband were dating at the time, when she too, was in her 20s, and he cheated on her with a 16-year-old. He decided to confess because he, too, works in a church and some people who work there found out, from the girl, who's now in her 20s, about him sleeping with her and have threatened to suspend him. Get this...the lady said her husband made this girl babysit their children. Essentially, they were looking for a babysitter and her husband made sure that this girl he slept with, was the choice they'd go for. It seemed the wife had no say in the matter/ The wife said that she had a hunch that he had something for the girl and can now piece things together since the story has finally come out. In this case, this lady is trying to cover for her husband by making excuses for him but in the same breath is saying that she's angry at her husband because she's imagining a man being inappropriate with her own teenage daughter. Basically, her husband's perviness is only an issue now because her daughter reminds her of the 16-year-old girl he took advantage of and she's also wondering how she can trust her husband.
These women aren't terrfied, angry and turned off by their husbands. Instead, they're looking for how they can salvage their marriages. Yet pickmes get upset when you tell them that they'll do anything to be with a man 🙄.
I say all this to say - we should be very careful with damaged women like these ones. They are ready to put themselves and others in harm's way because they aim to keep a man at all costs. It's reminded me to be very careful with the type of women I become friends with and if and when I have children, I will be very careful who's houses my children go to. You never know which pervert is around your children and if you're looking to these women to protect your children, they will fail miserably. These women are the kinds who will shout their daughters down when their daughters tell them that about the new husband or boyfriend who is looking at them inappropriately and has been trying to touch them.
Let's take heed ladies!
Agreed. Just remember that in the story of almost every pedophile there are also women who looked away. Who ignored the warning signs and who excused creepy behaviour because "my son/husband/father/brother would never". Even when it was their own child that was being abused.
And these women could be your colleagues, neighbors, friends, relatives, your kid's schoolteachers or trainers or the mothers of their friends.
We should name and shame these life coaches for giving the advice.
Yes, so true. You know what Kevin Samuel once even said? That you shouldn't believe your child when they tell you that they were raped. These pickmes and misogynists that agree to this statement are cursed.
This made me want to barf. How disgusting!! 🤢🤢 One of the things I credit my parents is how early they taught us about bodily autonomy, consent and keeping us safe from adults. Growing up I never slept over at anyones house. I remember begging my mom at 14 to go to this sleepover party and my mom would always refuse and say “you can tell your friends that you have other plans and can’t make it”. It was a great that she did that as she was okay for looking like the strict parent but giving me an out and having something fun to do instead. the time. At 16 my dad and I had a conversation about not trusting men and to always let us know if anyone ever made us feel uncomfortable. I say this as an adult how important it is to vet this with future partners. You don’t want to bring a creep into your home and cause more damage to not only your future children but other children too!!
100% agree with this!! It's so important to be wary of pickmes and cultivate friendships with HVW. Especially if you have a family, any man who is anywhere near your daughters should be thoroughly vetted. There are too many horror stories. These pickmes who stand by these scrotes should be thrown into jail alongside them.
I have heard multiple sad & horrifying stories about women like this. Thank you for warning other women who may not know. Also, good on you for setting boundaries by stopping watvhing the video.