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Hi, so, fun story. Bit of a rant, actually. I dated a man for a few years. He was abusive in a big way. I finally figured out that dating him was going to get me killed so I dumped him as safely as I could. He tried to stay in contact, kept bothering me, sent friends to harass me, so I got a protective order.
Tried warning the new girlfriend. I gave her a detailed list of the abuse he put me through, along with screenshots of the warrant that is out for his arrest and some of the paperwork from the protective order.
THIS FUCKING IDIOT SENT THE MESSAGES I SENT HER, TO MY EX, SO HE COULD USE THEM AGAINST ME IN COURT. She called me "delusional" and said "I used to work at a domestic violence shelter and StinkyPieceofPoo could never be abusive, he doesn't have any of the signs, I have known him for twenty years". Duuuumb.
And yeah I know, before you tell me, that's why you don't warn the new girlfriend. It will never end well. I have read all the things about narcissism and that's what they all say and I'm not sure why I thought my experience would be any different. I literally warned her that he raped me and she called me delusional. She threw me under the bus for some mediocre old-man can't-get-it-up-without-meth-and-poppers dick. Pathetic.
Do not warn the new girlfriend and do not trust women who have shown themselves to be desperate and stupid. They don't care about you.
"I used to work at a domestic violence shelter and StinkyPieceofPoo could never be abusive, he doesn't have any of the signs, I have known him for twenty years"
If she used her brain a bit, she'd realize that abusive men has different masks he shows to different people and only goes mask off to women he successfully render vulnerable. Love is blind, though, and denial is one hell of a drug. Another thing is that DV victims who go to shelter are at their lowest, she didn't see the manipulation and how the abuse progresses.
You tried to do the right thing by warning her. I hope it sticks to her mind and she would remember it when he starts mistreating her.
And I hope her stupidity isn't going to make your life difficult.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
I'd say even though she retaliated against you now, somewhere down the line, maybe in 5, 10, 20 years, she'll look back on this experience and feel thankful that another woman tried to help her.
They will literally let themselves die for a man because their self worth is that bad and it's not even about the scrote because it's basically the lvm they spiritually hire to do all the work of torturing them instead of self harm. Some people's pathology is so disordered they don't use any semblance of common sense anymore.
It's possible she is struggling with bpd or histrionic personality disorders because narcissists usually have a partner that they've tricked into providing for their needs it's usually with someone who is way better than them not a downgrade like the broke methed out old fart she's with. A narcissist would have a very difficult time with that.