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Some women are always very polished and if they find something they consider a flaw on themselves they will go get surgery or something. Meanwhile they date really unkempt men who are 2/10.
Whats the reason behind this? Do they feel inferior cause of their gender and think it is their duty to look good or something? And that it is the bare minimum for them in order to have a boyfriend and exist as women?
Low self esteem and low self worth. They value looking good to attract a male partner, but don't see themselves as worthy of a partner who's on their level. These women might also been brainwashed into thinking ugly, fat, balding, short dudes will treat them better than a sexy, muscular, full-head of haired tall guy. The media has been brainwashing women to make them believe hot guys suck for a LONG time bc nerds have taken over places like Hollywood and create stupid revenge of the nerds fantasies. It's crazy. Especially since the sweetest, kindest, and best men I've met are the drop dead gorgeous ones! Ugly men have only ever treated me like shit.
I typically date only hot men. It's not a deliberate strategy and I didn't even realise I was doing it until a few separate friends pointed it out. Must be because I don't hate myself 😃 And now I'm in my mid-40s, men I will date are few and far between. I dated a very nice man a while back who was hugely overweight. He was really lovely and had many HV traits, but I didn't want to have sex with him because his appearance was such a turn-off. The idea that women don't care about looks is such a lie. Women with unattractive men must be doing serious mental gymnastics to get turned on - the internalised misogyny runs very deep in these women.
My ex husband was nerdy , out of shape, unkempt , and overall unattractive.
He also turned out to be an emotional abuser and cheater , among other things!
Why did I settle? Very very low self esteem. At the time I met him, I was young and had no experience. None. I honestly thought he was the best I could get .
I've only had one relationship since, and he was muuuuuuuch better looking . Dressed well , ate healthy , etc. he was also a lot more thoughtful . Too bad he was lazy !
Patriarchy brainwashing. We're told since birth that "pretty is the rent we pay to exist as women" and the only way to stop feeling bad about our inferiority is to get a man. Anytime I see a beautiful woman with a trash bag I literally want to turn lesbian just to treat her right 😂
Internalized misogyny. Also does not help that we were all raised to give the men we are not attracted to "a chance". Every experience I have had with less attractive men is time I'd like back to laugh at their attempts to neg women.
This is a huge pet peeve of mine. I find it so fucking weird… especially if you feel so strongly about something to get surgery. I know a girl who had her nose done, and she just got married to her boyfriend that has a massive downturned nose.
I have nothing against plastic surgery (I’ve also had work done) but the logic here doesn’t make sense to me. She wants kids and I can see her being disappointed when they get his nose.