I just finished listening to a coworker. They were saying how they do everything for their bf. I mean EVERYTHING, they pay all the bills, cook, clean and take care of their son. They even give him an allowance because "working full-time is too hard". They then were saying my life is much easier and acting as though they are better than me because they suffer more. Meanwhile the whole time I'm thinking "Yeah, of course it's easier because I would never put myself in that situation." Like wtf? Why would I ever want a partner that makes my life MORE difficult. If i see that someone is giving my headaches I leave. I want peace thank you very much. I just can't get over how common this struggle validation is. Tons of my coworkers are like this. Struggling doesn't make you better than someone else LMFAO.
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Ah yes, the good old victim competition. As though suffering and persevering “despite all odds", in a situation that could 100% be avoidable, somehow makes you more of a person that you actually are.
The people who do this have been conditioned to think that their worth is measured in how much shit they can take.
I mean, I guess it’s an accomplishment in some degree. Here is your 🥇 for being a clown.
I don't get it either. They arent actually doing anything but running themselves raggid and for zero payout. No special celebrations, no ring, lucky to even get a "thank you." The man slowly justifies cheating because she's tired and looks haggard.
"I wipe an ungrateful mans ass"
Once while in customer service I complained about taking a too long nap that messed up my whole sleep schedule as well as waking up with a migraine. My older coworker and an older customer start bragging? That they get like two hours of sleep after working full time and taking care of the husband and kids. Like, tf do you want me to do about it? They wanted a cookie but they were asking the wrong people - other women. Talk to your husband about it? 🤡
They like feeling like a martyr
They like feeling like a mother
They feel they don't deserve an actual partner who would let them rest and take care of their half of partner duties
They are so indoctrinated in the culture and history of marriage, it's like polygamy where you wonder why those girls don't run away when they find out they are marrying a 50 year old at 14
They saw their mom do everything for their dad and think that's normal and their mother in law, oops not even married, mother of their partner did everything for her son so they continue on that tradition
They see their suffering as flagellation to get closer to god
They're actually a robot from the Stepford wives
You're in the matrix and you have to take the blue pill and humanity is actually fighting advanced AI because we're all being used as batteries and that's really stupid but the movie was good.
I couldn’t be sexually attracted to a male who acts like a child and asks me for money. No way in hell. I’ve had guys pull this sh1t with me, and that’s the end of the road for them. As soon as a man asks me for money, I dump him. I will not mother a man. He’ll only hate me for it and repay my kindness with cheating and abuse. F that.
Has happened to many of us here :) I just hope she sees light one day and walks towards it leaving the ungrateful elements in her life behind
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This makes me so sad. Also because I see it, and have been this way myself. I didn’t marry or have kids with any of my scrote exes (thankfully), but I used to run myself ragged working a full time job, commuting, and then cooking and cleaning when I got home and splitting everything 50/50, even if he made more than me. I thought this was what I was “supposed” to do as a woman, hearing from my pickme friends and coworkers and family members that if I didn’t “take care” of the man, he would find someone who would (oh and my exes would tell me this too). What a 🤡 I was back then. I hear this from my coworkers and friends who have children and are partnered. How they have to do everything while he does the bare minimum, or just goes to work (like they do) and come home and just lay on the couch. I overheard one coworker complaining to another, saying “this is what marriage is, isn’t it? Disagreeing all the time and rationalizing so many things?” Makes me glad to be single, childfree and unburdened by a Z/NVM. It’s a HVM or no man for me now.
It’s a holdover from protestantism—the more you suffer (like Job) the more holy you are 🤮
It’s like living with a parasite who thinks he’s the price. I always ask men what do you bring to the table since you can already predict how my life will be with you. I run the whole household, I might have to work fulltime because your dead end job doesn’t cover anything . And then always get a little pissy and claim running the house is not that hard. If that’s true then why do men let their house turn into a pigsty?
It's the victim olympics. I've also noticed some women really love suffering and being seen with sympathy by others. Stay away from such dangerous people.
Tell them to listen to FDS .. that’s what I would do 🤣 .. they all need Jesus 🙄
I don’t think it’s a competition as I’ve done it myself in the past and I have a few coworkers who do it as well. It is more of a way to shake off the feeling that something is really wrong, a way to find sympathy and gaslight oneself (with the help of other people who obviously know better than getting their noses in your business and giving their honest opinion on the matter) If your friends/Co workers brush it off or laugh about it shouldn’t be so bad, right?