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I've freaking had it.
I dumped my last hairstylist because a) she wasn't really that good, b) she white knighted hard for Johnny Depp in his DV trial, and c) she had the audacity to tell me, a mother who fought tooth and nail to protect her children from their meth addict father that her SIL was wrong for suing her drug addict brother for full custody of their kids.
So I thought, I'm moving on. And having been disappointed by just about every hairstylist in my little podunk town I decided to go to an expensive salon in one of the wealthiest areas I know of- 3 hours away.
She did okay. Just okay.
But when she found out I was divorced, she gave me the longest lecture about not becoming an old maid. Mind you, she's also divorced, and has no plans to date. But apparently, that's okay for her, since she's in her 60s. Me? I need to put myself out there by any means possible, before it's too late! I need to stop being picky. I need to rethink online dating.
FFS. From now on, I think I'm going to invent a fairytale love story to tell while I'm getting my hair done. I'm no longer divorced. I married my high school sweetheart and we never let the sun go down without saying "I love you" to each other. He works full time and I keep myself busy with PTA meetings. Life couldn't be better.
Now here's your money and overly generous tip. I'm going back to the life I never wanted, but actually love.
Hairstylist make crap money. A side effect of this is depending on men to survive. It’s an unspoken challenge in women’s work. So her options are brain washing herself into believing she enjoys being a slave to patriarchy or living with the depressing awareness that she is trapped. 🤷🏻♀️
Find your next stylist by spending time in the wealthy areas and ask women with nice hair for a referral. You'll possibly meet new friends with this excuse, and hopefully will find a talented stylist cuz you've seen their handiwork live and in action.
Ugh, that’s so unprofessional! I can say that for half of the hair stylists/manicurists/massage therapists I’ve been to, I don’t have a clue what their political beliefs/opinions of current events/stand on feminist issues are. And those are the ones I kept—they shouldn’t even be having such conversations with clients!
Idk, my stylists never really talk to me cuz I don't share shit with them. If I were to talk about things, I'm sure I'd highly disagree with them. I've had old, young, and gay people work on my hair. My exp doesn't discredit yours, but I'd consider pulling back. I totally get if they're just sharing shit and you didn't ask for it. I think in general, it's just easier to slap on a fake persona and call it a day if you can. This isn't just to hairstylists but any people you interface briefly with, whether it be co-workers, retail clerks, etc. Also fuck that boomer woman in particular lol, they just love to lecture about shit they don't need to go thru.
Eugh, that's really frustrating when everyone else isn't FDS minded, but you can't talk sense into some people. For piece of mind, just grey rock them, anyone whose idealologies you don't want to associate with.
At the end of the day, you are paying them for a service and anyone in their right mind can tell when they are making someone uncomfortable.
You really don't have to engage with conversation if you don't want to. You are paying for a service, not to be their friend.
That sucks! I don’t know why so many pick mes become hairstylists. I‘m definitely one of those clients that chats with my hairstylist so dating always comes up. It’s never in an intrusive way. But I think it’s a common topic among “girl talk”
A few years ago I found one and she’s amazing! Doesn’t seem like a pick me and she makes me look and feel beautiful when she’s done with my hair. I will say when you find a good one , never let them leave.
unfortunately it can take trying many different stylists before you find the one. If you like one that’s a pick me, you can always give gentle guidance on how to level up. It’s up to her to listen and all that obviously, but sometimes it just takes a nudge in the right direction for some women.
My preferred stylist is a man. But I have curly hair and will not go to just anyone.