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Has anyone encountered PickMes being jealous of you when you have confidence, high self-esteem, self-respect, etc? They'll despise you for having the confidence to call men out on their BS, dump men who cheat on you and your refusal to tolerate men's nonsense because inside of them, they know you're right for being that way and that they're wrong for putting up with men's mistreatment while simultaneuously trying to tell you that you're overreacting when you complain about men. They also hate the fact that you have the confidence they wish they had and in their irrational little minds, they feel that you've taken something away from them (the mental strength you possess) and are superior to them.
I've met a lot of women that are like this and they are exhausting to be around. They'll complain about men's mistreatment of them with you then argue with you when you agree with them and encourage them to put men in their place. They'll tell you that men "aren't that bad" and other such nonsense; completely doubling down on the complaints they've just made! How do you complain and also praise a toxic man?! What sense does that make?!
I really wish I could meet HV women who don't have this disturbing mindset of putting up with toxic men and wanting other women to put up with them too. PickMes have a crab in the bucket mentality - they pull other women down, to stay on the bottom with them due to them being frightened of women who wake up from the lies of the patriarchy and want to make changes in their lives. PickMes do this because they'll be left behind, on their own and will have to face the fact that they've made silly choices that have impacted them negatively. An example of this is when Ciara got serious backlash from women when she made a post on Instagram about choosing to level up and improving herself, which led her to a high-value man (Russell Wilson). Women were abusing her online and saying that nobody asked her for her opinion while others said that she was showing off and were praising the deadbeat men they were with.
Can anyone relate to what I'm talking about? Please let me know in the comments.
They hate and resent us because we're a constant reminder of the freedom they traded for slavery and male approval. They're jealous but they can't admit to it.
I’m convinced that pickmes are the female version of incels. In the sense that they’re both dangerous to women, they both hate women, they both have jealousy toward members of their own sex, and they both operate on a crab-bucket mentality.
oh yes - been called all sorts of names because I'm now very picky and gotten better results then before. While the men in question they defend literally laugh at how naive and easy to fuck they are. They will literally try to put you down for your looks as an excuse to why you should lower your standards and expectations - even if your standards are just: I want someone at my level.
When I was 18ish on this message board, an older girl (25) did a ton of HV feminist lip service but ultimately all she did was try to get attention from men, gush over celebrities and make catty remarks on her blog about other women like her ex's new gf. Once someone said I was pretty and she got butthurt and said I "wasn't exactly a ten myself" lol. When I insulted two of her celeb crushes (not knowing or caring she liked them), she out me on her profile's list of forum users who deserved to rot in hell. This was a grown college graduated woman who couldn't emotionally handle attention being put on other women, even a literal teenager who never did anything to her, or having her identity as an object to be viewed questioned in any way. She was shallow, petty, had shades of being NLOG and worst of all was nearly every guy thought she was a sweetheart or was willing to overlook her bitchy behavior because she'd flirt with them (of course these scrotes hated the intelligent, often older women and us teens who were just there to be goofy and have fun though).
I'm very happy pickmeism has been roasted and called out now but in the 2010s that was a RAMPANT internet disease among women, since basically men would bully or harass you out of spaces if you didn't try to get picked.
I think it has something to do with scarcity mindset. They recognise that the men in their lives treat them like crap but they're terrified to leave them because that would leave them 'wItHoUt a MaN' - shock, horror! They've been socialised to believe that men are amazing and having one is better than being single, even if he's a scrote. So they put up with bad behaviour and grow resentful and jealous of other women in a better situation. Long story short, these women need therapy and will drain your energy. Best to look for more like-minded HV friends!
I had to drop a friend of 10+ years due to her progressively turning more and more into a PickMe. She started adopting awful behaviors and ideas from her new almost all male friend group and I tried to warn her about it. Fast-forward to the fallout, she ended up leaking a private conversation we had to this friend group and thought I'd never find out. Sorry if my phrasing is weird, English is not my first language.