I don't fight other women over men. But I am constantly being attacked by other women I don't even know. Like I walk into a room, and I receive instant hostility from some women there. This makes it very difficult to build and sustain any friendships with women. When I find one woman who is friendly with me, she has a friend who hates me for no apparent reason. So that makes hanging out with her very awkward and I eventually give up trying. These women they don't even know me but they decide to hate on me from day one. Maybe they think they are in some competition with me. I don't know. I never consciously tried to fight another woman over a man. When I know a man is not single, he becomes uninteresting to me as a sexual object. So I don't understand why other women get so riled up and angry at me for just trying to exist in this world.
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I feel you on this. They are everywhereeee as a result of patriarchal brainwashing but you cant even take it personally bc of that. It makes you feel like the only sane one around
let them weed themselves out of your life
re " When I find one woman who is friendly with me, she has a friend who hates me for no apparent reason. " she may be insecure/jealous with regards to taking time from her friend/being protective of her friend. not saying that's exclusively what's happening, it may be, in some instances.
SAME! I was very clear about wanting to make a female friend when I was out yesterday, and this woman who hadn’t even spoken to me was shooting me daggers. When I spoke, she interrupted me and acted as if I was invisible. I was like damn, what’d I do to you?!
The mental and emotional insecurity is created and fed by patriarchy. Remember that they are victims of it as much as you are. Women are never truly in competition with each other by nature - but men are in competition with each other by nature. Keep trying to help them even if you feel exasperated by it. See if you can help them feel self-confident and secure by the things you do and say. If nothing works you might want to see a therapist and see if it's something specific you're doing. Sometimes we aren't always aware of how we come off to other people.