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Idk, my gut is screaming that it's wrong, but I just can't find the words. My gut is also screaming that I hate her life and I don't wanna be the way she has to be. Like I'd rather be authentic, transparent and alone in my personal life.
The whole having "genuine respect" for your man thing. If I viewed a man as so "delicate" that even an honest and not rude correction makes him disrespected "as a man". Meanwhile, I can speak my mind with my girlfriends and they can take it and they don't feel disrespected that easily, all while being people who do not tolerate disrespect.
I may respect my husband externally (if I was socialized into believing that this is how life must be) but internally I'm looking down at him for being so mentally weak and needing coaxing to do his natural responsibilities correctly, meanwhile mothers don't slack on their natural responsibilities just because their performance isn't good enough for others and is always met with criticism instead of praise.
Looking at stuff like this that's supposed make me feel that I have to coax men to do their part in a home, makes sure it never rubs their whittle feelings wrong; it makes me feel like a second parent that I can truly depend on would be a woman more than a man. Motherly instinct, motherly guilt, the urge to give your child what they need, doesn't diminish because you feel small that someone else "corrected you" and "corrected you in your own house", especially when love for your children and true love for spouse should be without ego.
Having your co-parent be a woman who changes diapers as much as you do without needing to be told and who brings in a second income is luxury compared to waking up everyday feeling your partner will only do their role if you make feel good about doing their role.
Looking at stuff like, how can men nod at and praise these types of videos call themselves the rational or logical gender.
Men can do that because everything in society validates them in their belief. It’s the emperor’s new clothes again. If everyone believes the lie, is it really still a lie? Not so much. You already know why this is wrong; you seem to be very much FDS-aligned even if you’ve only recently found this specific site. FDS is simply demanding respect as a human woman and seeking benefit for women in dating which is the exact opposite of what modern dating has become. From the outside looking in, it’s clearly a circus with men behaving as if there are no consequences for their actions (which is largely true unfortunately) and women just sitting in the burning room trying to hold everything together with “this is fine” or they’re completely entrenched in the pick-me mindset and are drinking up the kool-aid happily.
The FDS podcast episode about "communication between men and women" covers it. If he wanted to he would. If a man does something you don't like, imply consequences and if the behaviour repeats, apply consequences. Simple.
It sounds like shes saying she has to gently debate/remind him of her humanity and hope he takes the hint rather than just saying "I don't like that." I feel like real men don't need you to walk on eggshells around them. Walking on eggshells for him is treating him like a child. Treating him like an adult would be to abandon him when he's crossed a line. I don't understand what she's saying. The man she is describing sounds fragile.
"Take my perspective into high consideration"
Sounds like she believes the "man is head of the household". No thanks.