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Hey so there was a post about moving in with a boyfriend who made 3x what she did and he wants her to move across the country to move in with him and he wants her to pay 30% rent + his and hers groceries and I'm sure whatever labor that entails, it pretty much worked out to 50/50 on a dollar amount without her time calculated, anyways I told her that if he's trying to be serious and have a child with her one day then he should be proving his generosity and investment in her now.
But damn, I was told I'm outdated crazy need therapy, just plain dumb. And then the amount of girls who liked those comments was brutal. Keep in mind there's like 30k girls in this group but 30 likes on people calling you dumb is new to me. The girls were largely telling the OP everything between man and woman is equal and anything not 50/50 is spoiled entitlement.
It's okay to have a perspective on this but to then go and try to shame me for mine was next level, I just left the group. But sortve remembered why I don't have many female friends. I told myself it didn't bother me because most of their profiles had FaceTuned photos or didn't even show their face, but it disheartened me. So much doubt thrown my way when I have a lifetime of experience that could not change my unwavering beliefs and statistics help also haha. I'm almost happy that some of them are so naive but it then again that's part of the problem.
What the fuckk im shocked to see so many pickmes after hanging around FDS online mostly
I went out to an all girls meetup thinking it was a safe space. One girl was telling us about going out in endless coffee dates and I pointed out she shouldn’t let men waste her time on those. You’d think I told her to stab herself. That was a rough night. Needless to say I didn’t hang out with those girls again.
I just had a convo today with an acquaintance who told a group of us women to never do dinner dates, only drinks. She met her live-in boyfriend on a walk date. When I encounter a woman who has strongly held beliefs like that, I don’t even try. I have finite energy. Save your rescue missions for women who already seem receptive to FDS views.
I’m in a facebook dating group and it definitely is shocking how radical FDS principles are in comparison to the modern dating world. There’s always arguments over the 50/50 thing on there. But there was one post that made me so mad..a woman was asking for advice because her bf was bad in bed. One of the top comments said to find a porn video that’s exactly what you want and show it to him…like wtf porn is the thing that’s making men bad in bed!
Just a reminder to everyone, that this is not recommended by FDS admins, because of the previous attempts of creepy males on preddit to gather FDS members before.
I'm not implying you're secretly a man, OP, just be careful and don't disclose your personal info to random strangers on the internet.
I'm in one of those New York Facebook dating groups, and one girl posted about a guy she has yet to meet for a date, and she has butterflies around him. She wasn't sure if that was good or not, so I found 2 articles saying that if you get butterflies, that usually means anxiety. I posted them and of course some girls were not happy about it.
I am constantly battling women and men on reddit. I won't stop either. Because we can't have our voices drowned out. We need to keep being loud and proud. Fight to the death.
OMg I was in that group and saw that post! I was so shocked to see how mean the girls were being to her and saying that was a fair tradeoff. Wish you were still in the city I'm always looking for more FDS-minded friends
That is literally how abusers move. Make her move far away from her support system, then cut off her income. Wtf the gf could be in danger of losing her life
Some girls have to learn the hard way. Only really intelligent people can look at the mistakes others have made and nit do the same thing. People don't like to hear the truth. "If you tell people the truth, make sure you make them laugh, or they'll kill you."
i'm sorry you've been bullied. we try not to be affected by other people's opinions, but it's very hard... i feel that too, in a lot of situations. you'll be bullied here too if you share opinions that diverge from what FDSers believe (try posting you actually enjoy coffee dates or something like that, you'll get endlessly downvoted and some unpleasant replies). peer pressure exists everywhere.
i think you did the right thing by leaving the group. usually the best you can do is stand your ground because that's what you believe in, that's who you are and you don't need anyone's approval to set the boundries and standards for your personal life. but the same applies to them... we can't make them act the same way we do. that would be detrimental to their own personal freedom. yet what we do collectively as an oppressed class affects all of us. it's complex and sad because pickmes are the majority and it's always hard to make people see things trough your perspective. everytime i confront pickmes, they get very defensive as if i'm trying to control them, when all i want is to make them think.
i avoid engaging too much since that kind of discussion is unecessarily stressful. usually, life itself teaches the lessons they need to learn. i just say a few things to show them i won't change my mind and move on. being an enlightened woman is a very lonely journey...
A lot of pick me’s in the world. They’ll tell themselves anything because they want to picked.
I know I went thru it in my early 20s - but once I had children it got old real quick and life was miserable. I’m not trying to be a good sport for men. There is no 50/50. I’ve had men make more than me and try to nickel and dime me. Everyone will learn. You’ll either learn the hard way (pick me) or the smart way.
The ones shaming you will figure it out eventually, unfortunately the hard way for them.
Don't bother with stupid people. Just consider their lives entertainment.
Groceries?! In this economy?! But seriously though I saw a comment on a fb group on thoughts of splitting bills from a girl that said she and her bf split bills based on income so he pays 40% and she pays 60% but that she got laid off so now it's 50/50 and they might have to have a talk soon about him chipping in more. If it's based on income like she agreed then she should be paying 0% now that she is unemployed. I was appalled and appalled that her bf would let her go 50/50 WHEN SHE'S NOT EVEN EMPLOYED.