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I've noticed something with a lot of the pickmes in my life, and why their advice is truly trash and delusional. First of all, their advice always benefits the man and hurts you. Second of all, they give you shitty advice on what to do even though, a lot of times, THEY wouldn't do it themselves (or they would do it too but also be miserable with their decision and I guess misery loves company).
So my new strategy, whenever a pickme makes excuses for a man and tells me to "give him another chance" or "oh he didn't mean it that way, he's a good guy" or "oh you're being too hard on him" blah blah blah, is to ask them, "would you be happy if YOUR boyfriend did this to you? Would you really feel happy in this situation?"
As an example, I had a recent encounter with a scrote male friend who confessed his feelings for me and I rejected him. I should have cut off the friendship ages ago so my mistake there (new to FDS so I'm still learning, but even rejecting him was a BIG step for me because I did have some feelings for him)... but anyway, though he had many low value qualities, one reason I rejected him was because he would blatantly gawk at women in front of me when we were hanging out. He also complimented my SISTER'S looks several times even though he "apparently" liked me the whole time.
I told my pickme friend about this, and she starts to say "I think you're being a little hard on him, it's fine that this is your boundary but you are really intense about this stuff when most people aren't... I think you have some trust issues...". She never outright said that I was wrong, but I could tell from her language that she didn't agree with me. I was annoyed.
So I asked her "would you be happy if a guy you liked acted like this with you?" And she started to look really uncomfortable and fidgety and said "well... no... I'd be upset too."
So then, why are you hinting that I shouldn't have acted on my upset feelings in this situation?! I honestly don't understand the pickme mentality here. But, after I forced her to truly put herself in my shoes, she seemed to be more understanding and on my side.
So I plan on using this strategy of asking pickmes "oh so you'd be happy if a man treated you this way?" more often from now on. I'm sure it won't work on all of them, but it might get some to realize how ridiculous the words coming out of their mouths sound. I honestly think that a lot of women just mindlessly default to "give him a chance", but when they actually think about it... they would realize that they'd never want to touch that guy with a ten foot pole.
It's not a coincidence that Pickme grifters rarely practice what they preach. They don't actually want to be submissive to men, they want to survive under male supremacy by controlling other women on BEHALF of men. To be a pickme is basically a loophole under patriarchy in which you can avoid conforming to certain gendered pitfalls/expectations provided you uphold male supremacy in other ways
I giggled cause this is just happened to me. Three of my friends have pressured me to "give a chance" to one of their JOBLSS, BALD, BEERBELLIED brothers cause he's "a sweetheart" and will treat me like a queen, not "dump you like one of the fit Chads you date". I am employed in tech, in school for PHD, have a six pack and vacation 3x a year and compete in CrossFit.
They themselves have later said they would not date him due to him being "sweet" but not their type.
Pickmes neg you about being to picky and having standards every day.
This post reminds me of a woman I knew whose ex pursued our mutual friend. Everybody in our circle knew that the ex was a serial cheater, didn't bathe, porn addict, greasy haired and reeked so bad you can smell him from 5 meters away.
The woman tried her best to convince our friend into dating him lmao.
I asked the woman if she would date her ex again if he were to pursue her and she said OF COURSE NOT because of the reasons above. And our friend was like, "Then why are you promoting your trash to me!?"
Pickmes that do that are literally calling on themselves- they try to clean the table and you get the leftover scraps. And they do it under the guise of “supporting women” and wanting to help their besties. In reality, they don’t value you or they’re jealous of you and try to set you up for failure/embarrassment.
Yup, a trap of pickmeism I have fallen into before. Big BIG mistake.
And that is why I don't rage against women making mistakes and choosing wrong when you know most women are surrounded by pickmes who will BEG them to choose wrong. How can you make accurate choices when you have 0 models and the women who are supposed to wnat the best for you tend to paint men they barely know as some fallen angels just because these random men don't your standards.
When it comes to pickme's and ppl who make excuses for the ones who supposed to love you, they only try to give others the benefit of the doubt or play the devils advocate but they wouldn't be happy if they get treated the way you are treated. Simply because only then they know what you are going through. If a man hasn't treated them like they treated you they don't feel your pain so they aren't even bothered to walk a mile in your shoes.
When I explained that in the middle of autumn I got approached by a man asking if I want to come to his hotel and that he'll give me good money. He spoke English instead of my native tongue so I knew he's probably some illegal immigrant but I ignored him and he slouched away.
The pick me's assumed I was having my tits out or wore too tight clothing while none of that was true. I had a coat on covered from head to toe because the weather was chilly.
Other humans will never show true empathy (besides the occasional "I'm so sorry you experienced that" to avoid sounding like a piece of sh!t ) unless it happened to them.