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I feel like there are two major types of Pickmes – the ones that blindly accepts that they are “lesser” than men and the ones that are ACTIVELY participating in reducing women’s rights and gas lighting other women.
We need to talk about the second type.
From my observation:
- They have an ACTIVE hatred of women and somewhat conscious of it too (they might not outwardly admit it) – they usually don’t have any close female friend, and don’t even care. But happily surround themselves with men. You will find that their males friends can get away with anything and they often comes to the defence of men, while their female "friends" are often blamed for the slightest things and make no effort in understanding the female friend’s lives.
- They are usually the ones who don’t believe that women can be sexually abused (apparently all sexual abuse are women’s fault somehow)
- The white women version of them usually have an unconscious deep seated hatred of women from different culture backgrounds and when colored women experience sexual harassment from men, those women will completely deny it - (it seems like they won’t admit their jealousy when colored women get more attention than them). Even from the men who are clearly looking for sex from colored women and have character flaws, they are upset that those men are not sexually harrasing white women instead).
I don’t know how to categorise them other than a weird combination of Aunt Lydia and Serena wannabes.
They make female friendships very very difficult; and the completely opposite of sisterhood.
There isn’t enough information about this type of misogynistic women. Anyone else noticed this pattern?
Like Trans women, they are the worst of the worst, they lie that they come in peace but in reality they want to take over and want real women to be okay with it or else..
Trans women moan that they are being hated but they make it very hard not to hate them when they throw slurs such as cis and degrading names to describe a woman aka Birthing person or Uterus havers.
When I thought It couldn't get any worse they pulled something more disgusting out of their ass, now it's "Non men" And "Bodies with vagina's" just to have their delusion coddled that they own womanhood more than actual biological females.
But they and the one's who bow down to the rainbow mafia have no problem calling men just men, despite having trans men and non binary folks.
Absolutely disgraceful.
I know this type. There are different manifestations of this type. The ones I used to know were so awful and condescending to me that I cut them off. A list of what they were like:
Wished they were men
Always hung out with groups of men (they like the validation)
Said things like "I don't usually get along with other women"
Masculine=presenting but not a lesbian
Made mean remarks about or made fun of things like makeup, high heels, the color pink, etc., or any object not in the basic, neutral style of a typical Man of Walmart
Very overweight
Looked down on doing hair or makeup because those things are "stupid" and "beneath her"
Looked down on attractive women
Deep down believed she's ugly and incapable of being attractive
Bragged about using tools, being good at a science
Were "cool" with porn, or at least pretended to be when bringing up this topic, because deep down they were hurt and offended, and wanted to see if other women were having the same experience
I wanted to tell them to just go get a sex change already and live their truth, and stop looking down their nose at mine. And that their husbands were actually attracted to men and that's why they married them.
From my observation, it is usually the girls who feel that they can't "compete" with other girls who want to make things worse for women in general. Not to be offensive, but these girls are usually less attractive physically, and think that they can get back at the "mean girls" who used to bully them by lashing out at all women (even if they weren't bullied, they seem to think that other girls have wronged them in some way by being "prettier"). They also believe that they can compete with the "pretty girls" by being the "cool girl". The one who will put up with disrespect and be "one of the guys", and are delighted when their male friends abuse their conventionally attractive girlfriends. And that also gets them the attention from men that they crave, and something that they can hold above other girls. That's the case with the woman behind JustPearlyThings, I think. (And no, not all conventionally unattractive girls are like this, just the ones who place undue value on looks).
The other ones are just lazy, and find that it's easier to blame FeMiNiStS for their inability to find the type of man they want (one who will pay the bills) than to actually work at vetting for the kind of man they want. So they think that removing women's rights will get rid of feminists, and that in turn will give them the type of man that they want.
And then others are abuse victims. My mom fell into this category. She never went full misogynist, but she grew up with an abusive mom and sister, and that manifested itself as internalized misogyny. Things like hating the sound of women's voices, hating anything percieved as "feminine", and sympathizing with male pain more than female pain. I'm glad I never had any brothers, because she would been a self-described "boymom", for sure. Interestingly, her attitude changed a lot when she started to realize that her dad was just as bad as her mom, he just wasn't around as much. Therapy could probably have helped her get there sooner (and I think she still needs therapy--there's only so much that I can do to manage her mental health), but getting old people to go to therapy is damn near impossible.
Yes, but i would also add theres enough out there they do find each other sometimes. So they're not totally isolated from other women, but they are isolated from and suspicious of more...normal.... women. They cluster in certain environments and can make your life hell.
The ones i met always find a way to blame female victims, eg she's stupid, a liar, a slut a troublemaker etc. I can definitely see a non white victim being susceptible to this, as well as anyone who upsets the hierarchy they have in their heads regarding who is attractive. If they're the peak of beauty but YOU'RE getting harassed then you must be making it up.
As someone who met several of these women I would say
A. Stay away;
B. If you cant because they have some power in your life, know that they think a lot like men. They feel have a right to abuse you and dont like you setting boundaries or reacting negatively. Emotion or any self assertion offends and perplexes them. So dont reason with them just stay calm and scheme like mad to get out.