Me and my girlfriends have been planning to go on a trip out of the city. Suddenly, this other girl (who is a total pickme) has invited herself onto the trip. She's already derailing the groupchat with her suggestions (she either suggest places that are too far or too expensive and then has the audacity to say she doesn't want to spend too much money 🙄), and bad-mouthing the other women to me. I'm pretty sure she's also talking shit about me behind my back. Regardless, what is the best way to handle this situation in a high-value way? I don't think anyone has the nerve to tell her off, plus me and the other girls are not that close to "gang up" on her. How would you handle this situation? Would you just not go? I'm already worried this trip is gonna fall through because of her flippant attitude, which is making any planning super difficult.
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If I was in your shoes OP, I'd cancel the trip. You can try to organise another trip in the future but without this pick me.
If someone’s talking shit I always call them out, I would maybe talk to the others in the group about it, call her out that you’ve already made certain plans, or what the other commenter said about canceling the trip all together.
I hate it when I say things like " I want to go on a trip" And one person says " I'm coming too" how hard is it to say " Is it possible that I can come too"? They also have the nerve to act like they are the ones who planned the trip and things should go as they please.
Also you don't have to consider anyone's feelings if they haven't done it for you, she didn't ask If she can come, just tell her you don't want her there with you. And bring up the possible chance that she has been talking crap about you and that's why she's not welcome.
You don't owe her courtesy, is that person your friend? No? then you don't owe her an explanation either. Say no, I did not invite you.
Just block her from the groupchat lol
How annoying!
Can you back out of the trip? You can't control other people's actions, but you can control your own by removing yourself from shitty situations. Maybe you could plan another trip with only the people you want to include.
If I were you, that's what I would do.
How did she find out about this trip?