Pick-mes and the "One who got away."

I have no idea because this does not resonate. Never met a guy who "got away". If they are not around, then that's because they not supposed to be. But I feel every woman who has dated a HVM, and it did not work out, knows these are not the ones who got away. It does not work like that. HVM are just men who who are not perfect but respect women enough to work on their own flaws and hold themselves accountable. If it does not work out, that's ok. It is what it is. I don't often remember little details these men did (except maybe the guy I first kissed lol. I was just past high school.) but I try to keep the respectful treatment in mind even though a relationship did not work out, because I realize there is distinct difference in how I felt with those men vs. how I feel or felt meeting, even initially, some other lvm. You just know deep down that with some men you feel safer and sometimes when we other meet other male strangers out with groups, out shopping, or at work or school or online, or hiking, we often forget to tune in to how we feel around them. And these men are manipulative, so that's understandable, but also how we feel is important because we often hold back parts of ourselves or are hesitant in how we communicate with any lvm. I have never had to do that hesitation after 3-4 months in around a hvm, and with hvm, I don't "overshare", but I also don't hold back out of fear or word things carefully out of fear they are going to be upset or reject me or retaliate.

So, with HVM the rare few I did meet, I can honestly say that no, they are not the one who got away. They are just men who it did not work out and that happens. This is why its important to really know ourselves and not worry about how the man feels about us.

If he is a HVM, should it not work out, we are all that matters.

And if it does work out, again, we are still what matters.

A woman has to be her own best friend so that there is no such thing as a man who "got away". No matter what she is only concerned with not losing herself whether she's single or deciding on a potential partner or already married.

A while ago ago I was with a few old friends from school and we somehow decided to look up the boys we had crushes on back then on social media to see what became of them for fun. I think we looked up around 10 guys and there was only one, ONE among them who was not unkempt, overweight or balding or a mix of all three or into some really creepy stuff according to his social media (we are in our early 30s). All those boys who were cool and handsome in high school are now...blobs. A little more social media scrolling revealed that that one guy who was still good-looking actually turned out to be gay and seems to be in a relationship with an equally attractive dude (which also explains why he never had relationship with any of the girls who had crushes on him).

So "I wonder what became of him😍?" very quickly turned into "Thank god, we dodged those bullets." in every single case.

Dude, I’m walking around thinking to myself that I’m the one who got away lol 😂

am i the only one ok with having more free-time for me and all the girly post break up stuff i got to do like self care, skin care and all that?

Yes. But also, some of them are in such delulu they are convinced that this LV Nigel is actually waiting for them or something.