Pick me asking if she should pay her BOYFRIEND $50k in alimony??

No man would have this level of consideration for a woman he broke up with. This is why romantic relationships between men and women can never be 50/50.

10 years ago, when my LVM ex-boyfriend dumped me after we’d lived together for a year (this was pre-FDS, so I didn't practice the rule of not living together before engagement/marriage), he gave me no money. It was not something that crossed his mind, even though I was a student, he made $150k/year, and we'd split the rent 50/50 the entire time.

Most men do not give a rat's ass about women. This is why we never pull out our wallet on dates, we never split rent, and we never pay "alimony".

Men are not even paying child support or alimony for their wives who were with them for over 20 years and birthed their children. These women are not pick mes. They are straight up stupid. This is not misogyny in any way, they are just so desperate to look like the good person 🤣 and to who? To low value scrotes. Ick.

Wow

If their genders were reversed, the man would either not even think/care about her living situation or he would take joy in it. Women need to stop having compassion for men.

Boo. I especially hate how she feels “wholly responsible” for him losing his low-rent apartment. You know who is responsible? The man himself who chose to move into his girlfriend’s house and pay zero rent for two years!!! Did he not save enough then??

I strongly believe that you shouldn’t give or take more in a relationship than you’d be comfortable with in retrospect if the relationship ends. Never assume your relationship will be forever. I would never expect to give or take financially at the conclusion of a dating relationship. (Although in the past, I had an LVM ex keep my money and I didn’t fight it so I could escape him.) Marriage is another issue, as women deserve financial protection from divorce. But I would never ever endorse a woman giving a man her hard-earned money after a breakup.

I'm seeing a lot of misogynistic comments on this thread. Women are socialised to be like this. Pickmes are socialised to be stupid & have compassion for their abusers. It's all rooted in patriarchy 😞

We were once all pickmes. I will say, despite being educated, having a stem degree and being academically inclined and smart with money, I was stupid stupid stupid stupid when it came to being manipulated by people, particularly men. I think most pickmes project their empathy and compassion onto men. FDS really ripped those cognitive dissonance blindfolds off my eyes and helped me to see men and LV people to what they really are. We need to get these women into FDS. It's all about deprogramming what we've been taught.

Absolute insanity, however, I have a hard time believing a real life woman who is this accomplished could be this stupid. I'm getting cosplay vibes, but maybe I just don't want to believe this is real.

I'm not going to comment on this thread through the dating lens, but for the internalized misogyny that pickmes never seem to want to let go of. I want to say that I am shocked, but instead, I'm just looking at the screenshot with exhausted eyes instead that's already seen this type of idiocy before.

That woman, along with all the women in the thread hyping her up for her generosity to a man she's no longer tied to anymore, would be the first to tell you that marriage is just a piece of paper. Simultaneously, though, that just piece of paper has enough power to ruin everybody's lives with a divorce, so it is seen as something to be feared, disrespected, and a nightmare to go through in terms of paying alimony and/or divorce fees.

Yet, this woman is doing exactly that.. all without ever having to step foot with him in the alter. Lol.

Women today have got to stop living our lives with this endless guilt complex all because we were born female. The world just loves to remind us of the non existent female privilege and that we have to atone this sin again and again with the men in our lives, along with other groups of people who think misogyny isn't real or worthy of being dismantled. We don't owe anybody ANYTHING. You think people, especially men for that matter, are just throwing themselves at our feet whenever our lives turn just a tad bit too hard? Women are still out there, penniless and homeless, and no one gives a fuck. Women are forced to leave jobs and take a hit to their finances when facing misogynistic abuse or sexual harassment; again, no one gives a fuck. A woman, who has given birth to a child or multiple children to a scrote when one day, he realizes how bored he is of her and leaves her and the babies behind him, starting over a brand new life with a new model. Do you think he would have the kindness in his heart to gift her $50k to get her back on her feet and take care of the children? It just doesn't happen. At all. I hope the OP of that thread finds self love soon. She's already got the education and the high paying career to do whatever she wants in life. She can donate $50k to causes she is passionate about, or hell, just put it away for savings and to invest it for when she's ready to settle down with someone and can take a few years off working so she can relax a bit. Her ex doesn't deserve that money. He's made his choices that lead to him getting paid so low. If he doesn't like his life, he can either pick another career, or move somewhere else that is not (V)HCOL.

Sounds like a fake post, possibly by a man lapping as a woman. Who would say they have more money than they need? Not a smart, accomplished woman, of course, because she would be stashing her money away for an early retirement/investments/her future kids education. It's a stupid fantasy of an unsophisticated scrote.

Ugh reddit is really filled with basement dwellers. Does this stuff happen on platforms like tiktok

A man will never, EVER do this for you. You could treat him like the best thing in the world, give birth to his children, and he’ll still fight to not pay child support by going for custody out of spite.

Honestly...at this point you can just sit back and laugh. Clowns deserve clown treatment.

Imagine a shit man every giving his dumpee ex money.

Maybe he's broke because he's altruistic (he does work in nonprofit) - I guess birds of a feather flock together, because she is also altruistic.

Eh, could be worse. At least it sounds like he's not just a waste of space in the world. He might actually be an honest do-gooder, putting his efforts towards bettering the world around him instead of making a profit for himself.

I don't think money is the only measure of how much value a person contributes.

I know, I know, it sounds like I'm going soft, but I would feel very differently if he doesn't do anything useful, or if he asked her to give him this money. He would just be a run-of-the-mill hobosexual then.

Who knows, he still could be a hobosexual, because this story is kind of vague on details like what exactly he has done for her and what kind of nonprofit work he's doing.

Seriously, "he was an essential part of my home-buying journey" is very open to interpretation. That can mean literally anything. 😆