My friend tried to trick me into being oppressed

This isn’t the first time it happened with this girl. Her husband shut it down the first time it happened.

She thinks that she’s doing me a favour by introducing me to her middle eastern male friends (I’m not middle eastern btw…far from it lol). This time around, her husband wasn’t around, and she told me that she has a friend from back home who’s been looking to come to America, and he wants to find a “nice girl” to marry. Hahaha

Not only do I find this to be quite offensive, but quite appalling. How I think of it is, in what universe do I want to bring someone from another country just so that they can oppress me. Lol I’d be spending my resources to be controlled by a man who doesn’t know anything.

For the last five years of my life, I’ve been single, and I love it. I just got out of grad school, and found myself a good job. I bought my own car, and I can have anything I want. I love spending my Friday’s and weekends child-free. I love my independence and solitude.

I don’t want to be with a man and have to cater to him. I don’t want to be tied down to his whims, much to someone who’s new to the country and think they’re the boss of me. Even more so, I don’t want to have his kids!

For context, in college, I was actually proposed an arrange marriage by someone in my own community to marry a guy and his family promised me 100k to get started. I still declined, because I don’t like being married to a guy that will oppress me. In addition, I didn’t know the guy; never met him, and idk what he looks like.

For her to be one of these people that propose me this idea again (she’s like the fourth person to proposition some kind of arranged marriage).

I’m kind of angry with her rn. I stopped calling her regularly because I was afraid she’d bring this up again. She called me today and asked me why I’m too busy to talk to her. I haven’t been talking to her because I am busy with work, and I’m still mad at her.