idk if anyone else had this experience but I’ve noticed a lot of women are pick mes. I realized at a young age too. From girls in school comparing their skin tone and hair texture to mine (i’m a dark skinned black woman), from my own mother talk about attributes that men like in women (long hair, skin color, body type etc), also other girls around my ages always obsessing over guys and being bit crazy and competing with you looks wise. Even with some ”friends” , when they get boyfriends they disappear and don’t hang with you unless their relationship is having issues. I’ve had a recent experience with my roommates and we went out bar hopping and clubbing and they were being hardcore pick mes for guys and competing for attention(one has a bf) and i just stood to the side and walked away. I also had a “friend” say that she wished her ass was like mine and I told her I don’t care for it because it’s always sexual attention and men not respecting me and only wanting me for my body, and she said something along the lines of how she’s lucky she doesn’t have those problems and guys like her for her and not because of her body and how her face is cute etc. I just don’t care about being attractive for men and finding a bf. I’m about to be 21 I have other things to worry about. Plus I realized most men are just misogynistic and not good people.
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Yes, I feel the same and I wish I had more FDS minded friends in real life. Women that give no f’s about landing a man and whose lives don’t revolve around their shitty relationships. I want to be surrounded by high value women that have important things to say about life, projects they are working on, books they are reading, self improvement discovery paths etc. If I have to sit around a brunch table one more time and hear about these mediocre ass dudes and the over analyzing of their toxic behavior….the answer is always the same. He doesn’t care sis. Leave him. I’ve already said my piece and offered no nonsense dating advice but pick mes will never listen. It’s so exhausting and waste of time being around the low frequency.
I feel like 90% are pickmes and they refuse to align with fellow women. They will throw us under the bus for the first semi attractive guy who gives them attention
You’re lucky you’ve realized and found FDS at a young age. I think I was around 28 when I found it!
I don’t really have friends that aren’t pick mes so I get it. Although some are different levels of pick mes than others. So it’s nice. I think I have one friend in my life whose world doesn't revolve around men, it’s so refreshing to be around her! She’s very pro-woman too.
you're still young! I think as you get older you tend to meet women that are similar minded. I turned 30 this year, so my pick me friends have calmed down a bit(some, not all) and I have my one friend that’s a true queen.
You're definitely not the only one to notice that most women are! I also wish I had more, truly evolved women as friends.
Well done to you for picking up how most men are and how women tend to be. It'll serve you well in the future.
Like you, I'm tired of the many ways women embarrass themselves. I've experienced the same thing - friends going AWOL once they have a boyfriend, girls competing with each other over a guy, with some going as far to put down their friends to make themselves look better, girls being intimidated and competitive with me because I guess, in their minds, I had traits guys would like that they didn't have, and so on.
Yet when you point out that lots of women are like this, the same ones will deny deny deny 🙄
I hope that more women drop these self-destructing habits and see men for who they really are. Women are playing a dangerous game when they go against their own kind for a group of people who look down on them.