I'm still a pickme

I don't think you're a pick me, this is actually pretty normal experience. Men do this a lot, they flirt with everyone and hide the fact that they have a girlfriend until they have to say it. But I think you should learn to move past your crushes (I know it sounds easier than actually doing it). I think flirting with someone else helps a lot, or pay attention to other things, spend time with some other friends, don't think about him. Don't feel stupid neither, there's nothing stupid about it you did nothing wrong and it's only human to have a crush on someone.

Plenty of married men I know don’t wear a ring. A few married men I know complain that they regretted marrying on their social media. Without consequences, plenty of men will cheat. It’s possible he was trying to flirt with you but doesn’t want anything more. Men love the idea of flirting while they have a partner - no consequences and it’s fun. What I’m saying is it might not be you - it’s them. I think only the last part is worrying - if this is a repeated pattern, maybe you’re drawn to something that you shouldn’t be. I’d expect married or attached men to be intermittently available - they can’t go full on pursuing you but they can send signals every now and then. Perhaps you feel that the emotional unavailability is safe? I’m jus speculating i’m not sure but i guess you’ve to dig deep.

It’s a pretty common experience, doesn’t make you a pick me. Actually, the fact that you backed off as soon as he revealed the fiancée is the non-pick me thing to do. Pick-me’s would just try to prove they’re better than the fiancée (big yikes).

I have figured out the more intensely I imagine a future with a guy, likely the less interested in me he is (lmao). I make peace by allowing myself to have crushes but take zero action. A huge part of this was "All The Rules" and "Not Your Mother's Rules" books- Ellen fein Sherry Schneider. Then I'm not denying each individual crush, I'm simply acting within a set of guidelines.

Definitely not a pick me, this happens a lot because taken men love to act single 🙄. It gives their pathetic asses an ego boost. Don't beat yourself up over this 🙏🏾 It's important to gather info asap. Find his social media, try to very casually ask if he's seeing somebody, ask a close friend to find out info. I'm a big snoop, I need that info in a week or less so I can avoid pining over an unattainable person lol. Also if he hasn't really tried to get to know you outside of work within a month of talking, he's not that interested even if he was single. Once I was single and done bitching about my ex, I had 2 coworkers ask me out after a few conversations.