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Just watched a vid about why 50/50 is a scam. I enjoyed the whole vid, however there was 1 point I disliked: that modern dating culture and the entitled LVMs in it is caused by fatherless men. Not true because
Misogyny is in the air we breathe, books we read, shows we watch and people we meet (damn, I'm Doctor Seuss!!) The LVM will learn to be sexist regardless of whether he had a single mom, a grandpa but deadbeat father, 2 aunts but every other weekend dad, etc. The only way to combat misogyny and make sure a son doesn't grow up to be a scrote is actively condemn misogyny in the home, and point it out irl so he doesn’t copy the bad behavior.
It feels like yet another way to covertly blame women for men's actions, which she condemned. It's not the mother's fault her man was a coward. In fact I feel like fathered men are more likely to be sexist because they've seen the patriarchy and its benefits up close.
But I though, OK, she's awesome, I'll still subscribe! Until I saw her Short about beauty standards 🤦♀️. She claimed that part of your level up journey SHOULD include following B.S. because they help u get ahead in life. She even specifically mentioned being skinny and HAVING AN ENTIRE VIDEO ABOUT WHY U SHOULD ASPIRE TO IT. Do I even need to explain how feminity and beauty standards are horrible for women? She's making vids about how we should decenter men from our life, while saying we should center the standards they made for our bodies 😒🤦♀️. I've had this kind of thing happen countless times, I'm just so sick of these types of vids. Have you had this happen to you as well? I'm sure I'm not the only woman this has happened to.
Yep, another jab at women, nobody blames fatherless homes on men eventhough they are the ones who want kids but not the responsibility, it's alwas the woman. I even saw on twitter that a dude said he was being a father figure to his sisters because his father wasn't there, one commenter said that he assumes his mother has something to do with it he responded saying the father chose to be a deadbeat.
There are scenario's where it's both men and women's fault because nobody chose their father but she can choose her man, and he can use you as a reason to be a real man. but in the manopshere it's always the woman's fault and never the man.
I think part of the issue here as well is that some of these women start in a good place and want to point out all the bad things about Patriarchy, men, beauty standards, etc. but then get brigaded by comments from LVM and Pick-mes saying things like "not all men", "your standards are too high", "this is why feminism is bad" and so on. So they start to tailor their content and wash it down so as not to trigger said LVMs and Pick-mes - but then get lost in a sea of Pick-me crap that ends up not being useful to anyone. (and I may be wrong here since I don't watch a lot of this type of content, but it seems like it always ends up this way).
💯 yes. I don’t subscribe to the whole divine femininity thing but the ones i come across have varying levels of misogyny & “pick me” vibes. I know they focus on embracing femininity but they focus more on being seen as classy in the eyes of men. I never see embracing being a women that doesn’t involve hyperfemininity & male attention seeking & validation. 🤷🏿♀️
Same with SOME divestors. Calling women the B word & wh0res & h0’s. Also the unchecked racism. Calling Asian women “ling-ling” hispanic women “Maria” 🙄. And anytime a women is abused or killed by a Black man they say stuff like “oh well the preference should’ve know”.
Not a beauty standard one, but Talia Lichenstein was someone I used to watch on TikTok because she made a ton of videos aggressively shitting on men and I loved it. Then I decided to listen to a podcast she started with her friend and someone wrote in as a segment or something complaining about a roommate that had a ton of guys over she was hooking up with and talia got all mad about it and said something like “it only takes one man so therefore if you’re okay with her bringing one over then you should be okay with her bringing tons of random men over” or something like that and the logic was so bad it pissed me off so much that I stopped listening to the podcast, and then I went on TikTok later and she had made a TikTok responding to someone going “yeah I’m a hypocrite bc I LOOOOVE men” and I was like this is all a grift yuck.
I know the video you're talking about. And while I didn't like the contents of the video either, I do credit her for making it clear that 'being skinny' is a capitalistic technique for getting higher earning salaries and better job opportunities.
She even makes the point that it's NOT fair that this is a thing, and she also criticized how men DO NOT suffer the same salary or job opportunity penalties if they're not skinny. Completely not a surprise that men's professional competence is not judged on their f*ckability as women are, but it was shocking to know the extent to that truth.
She also cited some rather depressing research about how the skinny quality is about equivalent to an extra degree on your resume when it comes to job searches. Is it fair? Absolutely not! Is it useful to know that an alternative to getting a second degree to spruce up your job marketability is to lose weight... Depressing and unfair, but still somewhat interesting and useful.
I would not recommend the skinny video, because it is honestly triggering. But I think most of her videos are on the right track and align pretty well with FDS standards.