I hate it when people say it takes two to ruin a marriage/relationship. Not necessarily. One party can be completely innocent.

Saying that a man's selfish and inconsiderate decision to cheat is a woman's fault is the pinnacle of pickmeism. You can't make someone cheat, that is literally their own decision. A cheater always has the choice to leave a relationship instead of resorting to cheating. If anything, cheating is cowardly; it's as if the person is too afraid to fully commit to leaving their relationship and face the consequences of that decision, so they must instead restort to cheating.

The part that really annoys me is usually when I see a woman or man blaming a woman for being cheated on by her bf or husband, they claim it's the woman's fault because she didn't "put out enough." 🤢 Women don't owe men sex. Not getting sex is not a valid reason to cheat. In fact, nothing is a valid reason to cheat, it's literally a moral character flaw on the part of the cheater. Cheating or abuse are perfect examples of the fault being entirely upon one party alone when a relationship or marriage ends. The victim did nothing to bring this upon themselves. The cheater or abuser is a piece of shit for acting the way they did. Idc if they had some "trauma" or something that "caused" them to behave that way. Good people seek therapy to resolve their traumas so they aren't a piece of shit displacing more trauma onto innocent people who didn't do anything to desrve it.

Honestly the whole "takes two" seems like a very inaccurate blanket statement. Is it possible for it to "take two?" Probably, but that doesn't mean it's something we should assume applies to all relationships ending because it really doesn't. Depends entirely on the situation and details. This is why I, too, hate when people say "it takes two," espeically in situations of cheating or abuse.

It takes two. One person to continuously ruin it, and the other person to continue to allow it. A person (woman) walking away from a dumpster fire, is not her contribution to ruining it. It's her stopping to participate in the nonsense. That's all.

Men have always blamed their cheating on the woman. Marriage is a hostage situation unless you have friends and family who hold men accountable.

I think a lot of people simply refuse to believe that abuse or abusive people exist. In other words if they hear that someone was cruel to you or hurt you, they'll insist that you "must have done something to deserve it". They cannot comprehend someone hurting someone for no good reason. Personally I think this way of thinking is naive and foolish but a LOT of people where I live seem to think like this.

I can’t stand hearing the “it takes two to tango” bullshit.

I've seen women end their relationship/marriage because the man becomes neglectful, slept around, no longer prioritize being good to her such as buying her presents and remembering her birthday, let her do all the child rearing, One wife even filed for divorce because he gambled all her savings away. Or have the man call her names, be mean to her becaue she can't do much because she's pregnant.

All of them are legit reasons to walk away, yet scrote media claims she just needs to forgive but men can walk away because you're no longer in size zero or you got cancer. on tiktok one dude had the nerve to be upset with his wife for choosing to take a nap instead of making him treats for the game, because to him chemo theraphy is not excuse to be lazy.

Yes it takes two to ruin a marriage but it's usually men who cause the first damage, such as being an ass for no reason, and because you can't forgive or your anger lingers you're also part of the problem.

When he forgets my birthday or any day I find important and sicerely regret and amends to make the mistake undone doesn't follow suit then he can piss off. If he forgot and he arranges dinner last minute and heads to the store and I wake up the next day with flowers and presents then he's forgiven, If he's like " Oh sorry happy birthday we'll celebrate it another time." No you fix it today, If a man is sorry he'll feel ashamed of himself and puts the blame on himself instead of excusing his behavior.

Yup agree here. 90% my ex was at fault for me leaving.

Initially women do blame themselves when they learn that the infidelity was going on for quite some time until they found out. I don't see an issue with this line of thinking because it is upsetting and it is a shock. People are allowed to feel those feelings.

What I disagree with is the constant blaming of oneself for another person's actions. I see so many situations flooding Reddit from women who expended themselves because they thought that it would prove their worth as a girlfriend, fiancee, and even wife. Instead, it earned them overall disrespect from this man who supposedly loves and cares for her. So here she is with absolutely nothing left: Money, a career, hobbies, whatever was important to herself. Gone. And she has to deal with a POS who treats her like she is an inconvenience when she is no longer cooperating. Also, look at how much struggle women take on because of a man's stupid decisions. I sit there and I wonder why single women hitch themselves to a guy's wagon who is unemployed, has kids, has addictions. These issues will not disappear with a "woman's touch", they will be inherited by the woman.

I don't know about those women, but I refuse to be disrespected. I refuse to cook, clean, and bear children to someone who thinks that is my "role", my "place", then decide that they can take advantage of me without me noticing. The answer should be to all women a resounding "no" when they are asked to give up any of themselves.

Lastly, something I read a few days ago on Reddit truly solidified what I wrote above. This guy wrote on the TIFU (Today I Fucked Up) section about how him and his girlfriend were trying to decide who between them was going to eat: Him, her, or their cat. All that was left in their cabinet was condiments, however, she had a sock filled with rice she would reheat to use as a makeshift heating pad to treat cramps. Well, this guy ends up using the rice in the heating pad and whatever sauce they had left over. He also got extremely sick.

Everyone, I realize times are tough. However, taking up with a guy who makes you so poor that you cannot even afford proper menstrual care products has to be the epitome of disrespecting yourself. DO NOT SETTLE!

Only one person in the relationship has to be abusive or neglectful to ruin the relationship.