How to get your husband to help with housework

My ex-husband did everything I asked. But he never asked me if I wanted to be the household manger. I didn’t. It gives me the ick having to mommy a man.

The bar is literally in hell because what I want in a man is for him to say he fancies x so will pick up the ingredients and will cook tomorrow night. My top sexual fantasy is a man knowing I love carbonara and when seeing I’m really stressed, runs me a bath and starts frying the pancetta.

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It's because men a) think they're too good for it, b) are generally pretty lazy, c) weaponize incompetence to make YOU do it. When you get married, you are now the servant, the slave, the mother - whether or not you even have children - and of course if you do, you've just added an extra with a man.

No man is living with me, that's for sure.

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You don’t. They contribute or you leave them. Anything else leads to a daily battle and growing resentment and the death of your lady boner.

This anthropological study unabashedly spells out why women work harder in general than men and get stuck with way more chores & childcare:

https://theconversation.com/amp/women-work-harder-than-men-our-anthropological-study-reveals-why-196826

“Because women are, on average, physically weaker than men, and thus have reduced bargaining power.”

So men get to rest more because of the threat of violence they could do to us. Because they don’t want to do chores so they simply don’t. Seems healthy and loving *sarcasm*

As explained in one of my previous posts men made us smaller and weaker than them on purpose by starving us and our children. Women as we exist now is not our natural state. Dainty feminine women come from generations of malnutrition and being “domesticated“ (*cough* enslaved) by men. We can be just as tall and strong as men when properly nourished over multiple generations.

www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com

First a clarification—this post isn’t about dieting for good health, food allergies, or health conditions like diabetes and high cholesterol. It’s about the type of dieting where women starve themselves to be thin for men. Women have been fed propaganda for generations upon generations that dieting

There’s good news though, the conclusion of the anthropological study shows things are changing globally:

”Things are slowly changing. As women are increasingly starting families away from both their partner’s and their own family, their bargaining power is increasing. This is further boosted by their increasing levels of self-generated wealth, education and autonomy. Ultimately, these changes are leading men to take on an increasing workload in many urban, industrial or post-industrial societies.”

The bad news is that in response to the changing gender dynamic, male violence against women has increased exponentially in the past 10 years and is at an all time high.

What I'd like to know is how to tell whether a man is the type to pull his weight in the house or he expects a mommy-maid. Several of my friends only found out their partners are lazy fucks after cohabiting, and I don't intend to do it until marriage.

The guy I'm seeing is a good prospect because he lives alone in his own house and it's very clean, but I find that you can never be too sure.

I think that a man should be able to stand up to his mother. Not in a disrespectful way, but he should be able to enforce boundaries with her. Usually the men who are unable to even wash their own underwear have an enmeshed relationship with their mothers.