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So. I have this friend who was dating this guy at work a while ago. They dated for 6 weeks until he broke up with her. He told her that he felt as though he were dating a child (she's into a lot of things like Baby Yoda, Disney, Harry Potter which he wasn't into).
She called me up crying her eyes out and I stayed on the phone with her for like an hour trying to comfort her.
Now, a couple of months later, he wants to get back together and she's accepted.
My question is this. I'm quite frankly getting tired of always being the one that friends come to when they make bad decisions, usually I just let them get on with things because it's their life, but its getting to the point where I can't really take it any more. I've even shown them the handbook but they're not interested.
Friend in question is in her late 20s and this guy is going to turn 40 next year. He's also got a depression.
I have a really bad feeling about this but she's a good friend of mine and I don't want to see her get hurt.
Conditions for getting my advice:
Do they need advice for everything? Codependency.
Do they ask your advice but never take it? Ignorant
Do they strategically avoid talking to you when they are thinking about doing the thing, but then came to you when the thing didn't work? They knew better and they're using you for damage control.
Do they learn from their mistakes and work on themselves or do they keep bringing me the same problem? Stubborn
Do they even want my advice or is my concern for them wasted because they don't care about themselves as much as I do? Selfish
Do they keep asking your advice about something but they don't like the answer so they just live with the problem and keep asking advice about it? Coward
The older I get the more I realize my advice should come at a premium which is at least not being a total malignant self destructive dumbass, as harsh as that sounds. Helping someone like that takes a toll on me too especially if I care about them! Have some respect for me, my time spent helping you, and our friendship and take better care of yourself.