Most of the comments say it's outdated to expect a man to propose. From my point of view it's not about gender roles. It's about vetting. I'm the one who would be giving birth. I am the one who would choose the man that is the best fit for me. So if I am the one choosing why would I propose? It's his role to show me why I should choose him. He should be also taking intiative to progress the relationship. I also just can't imagine the men that say yes actually respect their partner. Men know we are the choosers. They constantly say "pick better men" or "I'm going to show her she was right for choosing me" or "she chose me out of the other men". They know. Some gender roles should be there for a reason. Would love to hear everyone else's thoughts. Thanks!
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Cringiest act on the planet is a woman down on one knee for a scrote. 🤮 Worst PickMes of all. They have no shame posting that nonsense. Men benefit far more from hetero marriage, which is why they have historically proposed, literally across the majority of world cultures. FFS. I could never respect a man who actually said yes!
I know this girl who works at Google and not only did she propose to her LV scrote, but they got married without actually having a wedding, mostly so he could get a green card to move to Canada with her (they're originally from Brazil but she was eligible to work in Canada because of her actual skills) and the thing that makes it all so, so much worse is that HE'S UNEMPLOYED. This dudes got his name on multiple properties *she* bought (she makes an obscene amount, like $200k+), got proposed to by her, never even did a wedding. and is obviously using her for a green card. All he does all day is play video games.
My friend introduced her to FDS and she *hates* it. He's her first bf from high school. This is the sort of life you could live if you don't follow FDS. Appalling.
I had a friend tell me once that her boyfriend, unprompted after a few years of dating, told her he expected her to propose. He makes plenty of money and could afford a ring, but somehow the onus is now on her to propose. The thing that’s sad to me is men don’t actually grow up dreaming of being proposed to. They don’t care, it’s just about putting pressure on the woman, making her get down on one knee to stroke his ego. Men who want to be proposed to are saying they would like to rob their partner of having that special moment — a moment that is inherently and has always been about a man making a promise to a woman, not the other way around. It’s so disrespectful.
I've seen a few of these floating around. Imagine the humiliation of someone asking how he proposed and you having to admit you got on one knee like some kind of medieval servant girl and begged him to accept you as his Mommy Bangmaid for life? Imagine if he said no and you had to talk him into it, and he flexed with that for the rest of your time together and he held it over your head forever? I am dying of vicarious cringe just thinking about it.
If I am with a guy and we aren’t seriously discussing marriage within 3-6 months and I don’t see a proposal or discussions about a proposal within like 12-18 months, then I am out. And I believe in marriage within a year of engagement. I agree with the podcast that marriage sucks for women more so if he doesn’t want it adios.
Wow, so glad I don't have any social medias anymore. I don't have to see shitty videos or whatever, I feel peaceful again.
Yeah no, if a man wants something from ME that will mostly benefit HIM he better make a good offer. Aka thoughtful proposal with a tasteful ring. I've seen men who aren't even HV pull that off, it's the bare minimum. Especially today where you can get so many ideas just off Pinterest.
Guys are always down to smash gender roles when it comes to women proposing or paying on dates versus things like doing all of the housework. It's just another thing a woman has to do on top of all the other shit she is already doing to make a man's life easier. Men love to talk about "equality" if it involves a woman doing something instead of them and never the other way around. Women proposing to men honestly just makes me super sad because I know it's not going to end well. No man worth having is going to want his girlfriend to propose to him.
Oh, hell no. I'd rather die than propose to a man lol.
Ugggh, it’s so sad. It encapsulates where dating is at right now —no effort at all from men while women take on both gender roles. I have never received a real proposal from a man in my life.
My sister kind of did this, but even sadder. When her bf moved in with her they both agreed to get married 4-5 years later. Five years came and went and he didn’t propose and never mentioned the “m“ word again. So my sister told him to marry her or get lost. He married her… at city hall. So romantic.
Thank god she is child free for the long haul. He is terrified of children (like most western millennial men I’ve met). The only good things about him are financial: he has a stable, high-paying career, he’s good at saving money, he’s not cheap and takes her on lots of vacations. Otherwise he’s short, bald, and perpetually online.