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So I met a woman at my old job, we quickly became friends. She’s about 20 years older than me. Two grown kids my age, been single for over a decade. Divorced an abusive man, fled the country, settled here and became a home owner all on her own. She used to inspire me. She was what I wanted to be when I grew up. We shared various hobbies, bonded over those. Talked about feminism. Talked about our standards for men and relationships. How neither of us could ever put up with shit and it takes a great man or no man at all. I introduced her to FDS, she loved the idea. She leads a busy life, focusing on her and her kids, but they're both grown and nearly out of the house. She was almost an empty nester, she almost had her whole life to herself again, free to do whatever she pleased. All was well. Until she fell madly in love with a widowed LVM who has several young children. He tried to date after his wife had been dead for like 2 months??? I guess all the people in his life told him to wait. So then he meets my friend around the 1 year mark. And within 4 months of dating, she’s now his children’s new mommy. This man does not work, he’s too “traumatized” after his wife died. He moved back in with his parents, who I’m guessing have been the ones managing the kids. My friend has now converted her own home to move these children in, they each have their own room. She is enrolling them in school, setting up dentist appointments, making sure their homework is done and taking care of them every day. She’s told me she’s so in love with this “amazing man” that she wants to propose and can’t imagine life without him. I was already beginning to distance myself from her at this point. I tried to gently warn her and say she was moving too quickly. She’s taken on a motherly role too quickly. These aren't your kids. Why isn't their father caring for them? I said what happens when your parenting styles differs and he does something you disagree with, what happens if you break up and you’re attached to these kids? She said she wants to legally adopt them…….I lost all the respect I had for her. The strong, independent, take no shit woman I knew was gone. I stopped seeing her.
She’s heavily involved in the LGBTQ+ community. Up until a few months ago, I supported Pride, went along with things, used preferred pronouns and all that. I’m completely against it all now. Ive been listening to women who have spoken out against the trans insanity. Posie Parker, Abigail Shrier, Kathleen Stock, Miriam Grossman, Erin Friday, Megan Murphy, Helen Joyce, among many others. I completely agree with them and am so thankful I found their work because it's really opened my eyes. There was an incident in town over a fully intact male in the women’s changing room, watching the women undress. He never claimed to be trans, he was just a pervert. Maybe he decided to self identify after he realized all the support he could get for saying so…. Anyways a brave woman complained about it, she was told she was being hateful and bigoted, she has no right to question someone else’s gender identity and was kicked out and banned from the gym. She lead a protest. Only a few showed up to support her. Hundreds rallied against her. Including my friend. Reposts on Facebook over what a hateful evil person this woman was…..so to wrap this story up, I’ve cut ties. I can no longer associate with someone like this. Our lives and ideals are too different. She supports things that actively harm women and I am fundamentally against. I physically cringe and am so saddened to read her Facebook posts detailing what an amazing, productive day she’s had with her new kids! And I’m sure very soon, her new husband! Her posts read like she's a single mother. She does EVERYTHING. I wouldn't even know he was there honestly. He'll post a heart or a compliment under every post or say "you're amazing." Get this, his profile pic is him and his dead wife on their wedding day.
*GAG* I can’t. I can't do it anymore.
This was a punch to the gut to read. This right here is why FDS is so important. It's trying to protect us from this woman's fate. Women truly lose their minds over men. Maybe it's the intoxicating hope or fantasy. Maybe it's just the need to be loved and to believe a man will give it to us. I don't know. But we have lost some great women to this madness.
Good riddance. You're wise to distance yourself — there's no value in having a front row seat to the shit show.
How sad for her. We'll pour one out for her.
It's worth me mentioning this again:
A man's trauma or struggles with mental illness are always *ALWAYS* used as an excuse to not function.
Notice how he just isn't working. I'd bet he isn't participating in any kind of grief counseling or therapy to better deal with the passing of his wife.
It benefits him nothing to 'get better'.
He's literally found a way to just laze about and never contribute or work again.
Hobosexuals be everywhere. They will purposely pull at your heart strings so that they never have to work, bum a free place to live, and take advantage of any and all of the physical/emotional labor you will dole out.
Oh dear she wants to save him. He'll get back on his feet and cheat on her while she's essentially a single mother to children she didn't birth.
Some women are just so attracted to this notion of saving individual losers. Go rescue a cat or dog ffs.
Oh god. What must her actual children think. I've noticed (non lesbian) women very invested in the LGBTQ+ are extreme pickmes
She sounds like a real glutton for punishment breaking her back for the love of a lazy man. There goes a life down the drain. Good thing you twigged and decide to cut her loose. People like that can only drag you down with them.
She still can't separate herself from the idea that "men and kids" are her meaning in life. That's sad, she must've been lonely with the kids out and she'd rather oppress herself all over again. This is why we need fds
I see nothing wrong with distancing yourself from someone who is willingly messing up their life. The way I see it, we all have our own problems. Modern life is very stressful. If we were to take on everyone else's problems in addition to our own, we'd end up burnt out. It might be harsh but it's the truth.