Do not accept men multidating

Besides the cultural expectations of the seriousness of dating vs boyfriend/girlfriend status vs marriage it's not that different.

Since I prefer to meet men in person I can see how tall they actually are and what they look like up close, how they smell, their basic social skills, if they have a ring on, if they seem sleazy, and depending on where we meet: usually their interests, income and job status so you could call that "basic stuff out of the way" and harder to fake than someone just talking through a phone. Then they can also slip up in the communication between meeting and the date planned, so it's definitely more than 3 words exchanged. Extra points if you "know of them" or see them around you will usually learn their relationship status and if they date around a lot before even engaging.

Like I know this one friend of a friend who is an absolute 10/10 tall hot viking with great charisma and fun to talk to, but I already know he goes on a lot of dates and makes out with girls at parties. I'm even aware he's had a serious mental health episode and a possible insurance fraud lol. But I still wouldn't say I know him truly as a person. So do you really know the people you think you know if you get surprised by this multidating behaviour? Just saying.

Edit: now I've seen some of your other posts and you are all over the place. If you are meeting these guys on apps you ARE in fact deluded that you know them or they know you as you seem to even have been catfished several times. Then you also talk about them sleeping with other people while dating you yet say sex only happens after a commitment which would make that literal cheating. I think you need to read or re-read the handbook.