“Cheaper to keep her”- should we hold women to a higher standard than men?

How about being angry at both?

If a woman flirts and sleeps with man she knows is married or in a relationship she's LV. And that man's wife is right and justified to angry at her as well as her husband. The "mistress" not an innocent victim who didn't know the guy was married in many, many cases. There are women out there who even approach married men on purpose for the kicks.

The scrote could still have shut down the flirting as soon as it twigged. The Pickme has no loyalty to the wife beyond the sisterhood - it's the scrote who committed to vows he doesn't want to keep. Be angry on the wife's behalf at the Pickme, but she's not the betrayer.

Anger that is thrown towards mistresses by wives is misplaced. It makes the homelife difficult to hate the one you live with so it's easiest to direct those emotions elsewhere. When it's men who call them homewreckers, well that's just bog standard blame-avoidance and lack of accountability. Scrotes gonna scrotes

They're clearly both at fault but the husband is more at fault. The pick me is a grown ass adult - she's capable of moral agency and actively chose to flirt with a married man. The greater betrayal is on the part of the husband though since he's the one who married his wife, wasted years of her life, and actually knows her personally.

No because in almost every household the woman does all the work, from cooking to maintaining a whole household for free, she also cleans up after men and sons most of the time. She also needs to work part time because the loser she bred with cant afford to pay for everything.

It's not women who needs to be held at a higher standards because since birth women are treated like they should rely on their own but men should rely on them otherwise she's difficult and nobody would want her.

So this shows that women shouldn't put anything on the table because they are the table, It's men who need to prove themselves that they aren't a bunch of lazy children who only take but hardly give.

The reason why a Ruby is so valuable is because it's hard to find, hard to keep because everyone would want it. But if they ruby gets handed out for free then it drops in value because men don't have to do anything to get it, Even if they can sell it for thousands the fact that they can get heaps of them for free no longer makes them want to cherish it.

Even oil or gold, I've seen ppl work all day to find gold but If golds get handed to Men then they start to take it for granted and disregard it because it's easy access able.

All women should Be a ruby that is hard to find, and harder to keep. Then every man even the scrotes and perverted old men who think they have options will sing a different tune, when they can't access women for free for sex or clean their house/give them children then Men have only two options. Die alone or fight for sex and breeding rights.

When women move like rare rubies instead of being an option for him a shift in men will happen, they will no longer prey on much younger women, they work on their future instead of sleeping around and not settle because their dream woman could still be in primary schools, They will use their prime years wisely such as becoming defending and providers so that they can start a family young, Violence against women might drop, And men are at their best behavior.

When women are the ones with all the options then Men will be pressured to grow up. And that's something most of them don't want.

You’re not wrong to feel mad at her. She is lacking in professionalism, boundaries, self respect, and respect for another woman. I would feel the same way you do. Life is full of assholes.. what can I say?

Doesn't have to be one or the other - it's perfectly reasonable to be disgusted at both of them.

I equally expect both men and women to refrain from throwing themselves at people who are married. It's really not that hard. This standard is not high at all.

I also expect people who are married to shut this shit down. That's the deal they agreed to when they got married.

I'm sensing disgust at both parties in your story. Then the "cheaper to keep her" part put her over the top. That's understandable to me. So much what-the-fuckery there.

I'm not sure why I was also taken aback specifically by that part, isn't it completely predictable for a pick-me to agree with anything a scrote lobs at her and throw other women under the bus?

Maybe it's because his complaining about his wife to her is practically textbook (it's like all cheaters read out of the same script). The textbook response to that is to be like "aw, you poor thing", focusing on his feelings and avoiding thinking about his wife.

There's a special callousness to saying something that shows she is very aware he has a wife, and combine that with talk of finances instead of feelings. Usually people like this will claim up and down that their feelings overtook them, and that's why the rest of us ought to excuse their behaviour. This one is not even trying for that.

I will forever refuse to put the blame on the other woman. Even if she didn't know any better, the married man knew better.

Let the clowns perform in their circus. Can u contact the wife?

Our primate brains have evolved not just to hunt and gather but also to help us get ahead socially, often via deception and self-deception. The less we know about our own ugly motives, the better, and thus, we do not like to talk or even think about the extent of our selfishness. Even if we manage to track down the darker, unexamined corners of our psyches and blast them with floodlights. It is still hard to understand why, let alone produce solutions that work. Being honest and transparent takes courage, which comes from being fully self-developed. It's only possible through sustained, long-term relationships with the right people and being willing to do the challenging work and learn. In practice, this is extremely hard to do.