Cheap Dates

I don't even understand why isn't A DATE allowed to cost some money?? I can walk by myself, I can make coffee myself at home. Big whoop. If there is someone you're really interested in, don't you want to treat them?? Isn't it only natural? And why is it so hard to receive that kinda treat? So many questions...

I also can't with that "you can't end a date sooner if it's a dinner date". You can literally walk out the door any time you like. It also doesn't take that much time to finish a plate of food, maybe half an hour + ordering and waiting? Why would you even want to get out sooner than that when you're supposed to get to know someone and observe their character? If the dude is so shitty that you want to bail after 10 minutes, then maybe don't go on a date with him?? Lol

Such low standards these days. I can do all these things on my own lol

Cheap in the beginning means cheap in the long run too, Im not talking about budget-friendly dates, a fairy themed tea party with cakes is something I would enjoy and it wouldn't even cost much.

My own mother dated a scrote, he was cheap so their dates was walking dates and such, and he was cheap to her in the relationship as well, never bought her anything or paid a single bill.

That's what you sign up for with a cheap scrote.

when I'm asked out you either give a preview of what you can offer or it's block and delete.

I hate cheap behavior because it shows you only care about yourself, of course I would not like to spend money on a stranger but there is a difference between a stranger and a person that caught your interest.

And don't ever assume cheap men will be giving towards their children, scrote father always bought the "birthday gifts" but it's just my mother's money that he used to get a ps3 game.

I will rather be a gold digger than an idiot and then whine about how the baby daddy sucks ass.

The problem I have with women that advocate for walk/coffee dates is that they act like martyrs. They've convinced themselves it's a new concept and need to inform everyday working women.

I always wonder what would happen if a woman suggests going 50/50 at a super expensive 5 star restaurant with these cheap ass guys 😂

Because you know he couldn’t afford it but he can’t call her a gold digger or she’s looking for a free meal.

I just never see that scenario when women are talking about first dates. They always act like accepting a $3 coffee and going for a walk is how a first date should be and anyone that even wants applebees is asking for too much.

I just want to mention when you keep your standards high, and if you meet a guy that meets those standards you will have a great, low conflict relationship.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. From the very first date he’s tried to impress me. We’ve gone on vacations together and we’re always doing some kind of activity together. I’ve never paid for anything. I needed some stuff replaced/fixed in my home and he paid for the parts and Installed too.

I know he has something planned for Valentine’s Day, but it’s a surprise so I can’t say what it is but he knows me well so I’m sure it will be good.

My relationship is very low stress. Once in a while we might disagree and have a small argument but it’s resolved quick and we move on.

This is what you get when you follow FDS.

Going out for coffee or walks gets you an unthoughtful man and you’ll be complaining about how he forgets your anniversery and your birthday. Those men will make your life miserable

Also I'd like to add that going to new restaurants expands your knowledge on cuisines. It's not just eating "fancy" food it's an experience. I wish women would stop depriving themselves from that joy.

Women need to stop feeling bad about men paying for dates. We can never go on a date being 100% sure that the man isn't going to attack, rape or kill us. We're literally putting our lives on the line every time we go outside to meet a man. So he'd better recognise that and pay up for dinner or similar. And bring a gift to show his appreciation. Going on a walk by the river with a strange man?? That's dangerous as hell and any half-decent man would refuse to put a woman in that situation.

Come to think of it, it's not just about cheap vs expensive. A restaurant is relatively safer than a coffee place.

Think about it. If you meet a man at a coffee place and he's giving you the creeps, and you walk away, what is stopping him from immediately following you? Absolutely nothing.

At a restaurant, he at least has to contend with the possibility that an irate restaurateur will follow him out like "hey, pal, you better pay up!" 😆

If it's the type of place that requires a deposit to make reservations, that leaves a trail for the police to track him down if that becomes necessary. 😂

Another screenshot from the comments section. I feel bad for this young woman who’s happy that a man from tinder remembers her name!!!????

Meh, if you weren't online reading the thoughts of every random pickme they wouldn't even exist to you, so it's pretty easy to ignore tbh.

I can understand the perspective that if someone found you online 3 days ago and doesn't know you AT ALL, what would make them want to go above and beyond with romance and financial investments besides being a a narcissist/wife beater/serial killer in their lovebombing stage?

That being said, that's exactly why online is not an option for me. I prefer to spend my precious time on thoughtful dates with interesting men who enthusiastically want to take me on them. But we live in a culture where people choose quantity and convenience over quality.

If said date is with someone I just met for the 1st time, I do not feel comfortable with anything above coffee. To me, that person is a perfect stranger.