Book idea - any advice please

Hi guys

Thank you all for changing my life! FDS saved me during lockdown. I was having dinner last week with a recovering pickmeisha and telling her all about FDS. She was bemoaning the fact her last forever boyfriend had red flags and she should not have ignored them.

I have met a HVM by sheer chance and spent a long time vetting him (a year) before even having sex with him. We are in a LTR now and heading towards marriage.

My friend asked me what the trick was to find this guy - good looking, six figure career, mutiple properties, good family relationships, no debt, respectful, keeps fit, adores me. I kept saying to my friend 'its just your luck' and vetting and dumping at first red flags. I explained that smug couples have just met by luck and unfortunately the dating pool is deep in pickmeishas, projectile romantics, and LVM. Both demographics coming together fuels the fire of the toxicness in dating apps and the story continues. You have to break the cycle yourself. Yes, during this process will take a much longer time and you may have many more dates and expierences vetting.

During this 'harsh' vetting process however...

The pickmes and forever girlfriends will obviously point out -

'How many 10000s dates you have been on', usually when you multidate to vet men (subtly suggesting you are the problem and projecting their own internalised misogonist values onto you);

'what do you do to attract such weirdos', when you explain rationally a red flag and why you dumped someone (a projection of their own fear to delude themselves that this is the reality of the majority of cis heteronormative men);

and 'chad/steve/scott would never ever treat me how THAT guys treated you! How do you put up with it! Just give up!' (Deluding themselves once again that the useless LVM scrote they have ended up with is a catch).

I explained to her its basically luck. I remain humble and will never be particularly excited about a relationship unless it has consistently added value to my life over a sustained period of time (years). She was fairly gobsmacked but she did get it. I explained it will take her a while to challenge her own ideas and beliefs, putting learning into practice and seeing the world without rose tinted glasses.

She asked me how she can make herself a more attractive partner and what she does wrong. I asked her what her own sister had done to 'work on herself' before she met her husband. I asked her what her own mother had done to 'work on herself' before she met her father. She said obviously nothing. I said so they did not lose 2 stone, dress for the eyes of men, go to coaching sessions on 'how to get a man', pay for dating apps etc etc. She said course not. I asked her when was the last time you heard a man take a break from dating to 'work on himself' - they do not care, they just download Bumble and start swiping. I explained more men find in utterly hilarious that woman twist themselves into pretzels just to get a chance with them - they have antenna that can sense it and use it to their advantage.

She said I should write a book. She returned home and her mum messaged me later that night - Sarah has told me everything you explained to her about relationships, I wish I had been telling her all this sooner.

I guess 'just your luck' will make smug pickmes realise there is nothing special about her or I - we were just lucky. It also takes the pressure off woman who, of course, absorb the blame of poor male behaviour towards themselves by both men, woman, friends, sisters, parents when yet another man they are involved with turns out to be LV.

I know I lost alot of friends who were covert pickmes during my FDS journey (four years or so), terribly painful and such a waste of time. I found losing them far more painful than a relationship.

I was famously told 'you are desperate to settle down and find someone and have children, its such ashame - everyone else can find someone and you cannot - what do you do wrong'. (Yes. Word for Word in a text message on a Sunday morning).

Anyone else think these concepts could be a great idea for a book? Would expect kickback but I just want to scream from my lungs when someone ends up married and settled for years - 'ITS JUST YOUR LUCK!'