Have you seen many men changing their appearance for the satisfaction of a woman they are dating? Let me guess, you haven't seen them.
Why?
Because when women start going out with them, they get validation from our choices. You picked them despite their ogre appearance and shit personality, so they must be ✨a catch ✨
Women aren't raised with this mentality.
We are taught, that the luxury of self-acceptance is only a man's privilege to enjoy. That only a man can be ugly and still (for some reason) expect beautiful women. Porn and the abundance of free prostitution on social media only reinforces this delusion.
We, on the other hand, are expected to spend our time, money and tears on being forever young and conveniently beautiful.
The problem is not that we are not enough, the problem is nobody will be enough for most of them. And that's ok. Let the trash take itself out.
I've realized that patriarchy THRIVES off of our "insecurities." As Adriana Lima or someone else stated men will fuck anything including a McChicken sandwich lol. I'm really sad, as someone who's a member of gen z that we are so incredibly insecure about our bodies. Now lip filler, BBL, implants are the norm, and its clown shit, these low value men don't care about any of that, due to our pornsick culture they are always on the hunt for something more. Literally Emily fucking Ratajowski got cheated on. You can never win with them.
So much of IG looks like a free porno feed by women who are allowing themselves to be used as unpaid sex workers. I hate it with a passion. I too have been at a low enough point where I considered plastic surgery to make myself more desirable. Fortunately I did not go through with it. This is so sad. It breaks my heart. Women really thinking that if they're just "more perfect" to the depraved male gaze, they'll want to stick around. No. You are an object to them. They do not care. Your relationship is transactional.
And it's not just women, there are little girls on there as young as 13, ect and these girls see these posts of these women sexualizing themselves and they wanna be like them. I really fear for our younger generations and what they're exposed to. My brother once logged on his friend account on my phone, he forgot to log out so i was a little curious and watched who his friend followed. He's only a teen, I think he's 11? And the people he were following were literally instagram female pornstars, I was schocked when I saw that.
I appreciate her message but I can’t help but find her video still somewhat gratuitous. Her video just seems a bit disingenuous. Am I the only one seeing this?
Edit to add: Yep, I had a look at her IG and she is completely disingenuous. Not like she's turned a new leaf and is now using her platform to support and educate young girls from her experience. Nope. She continues to upload "thirst traps" and profits via onlyfans. She is actively contributing to an industry that commodifies and dehumanises women. I have no sympathy for her, she is an adult making a choice at this point.
I feel guilty for not wanting to hear any of her advices nor do I want to blame her for anything but I'm sure a lot of pickmes know atleast one woman with the FDS mindset or who gives FDS advices to them and they shame them and humiliate them until they find out these women were right all along. She's another exemple of why you should never change your body for anyone but I feel like a lot of women live in delusion, I don't mean it to hurt anybody but these ladies really need to put aside their not reciprocated feelings and efforts and think deeply with their brain and/or listen to their intuition. Our feelings can be our biggest enemies in hard situations. I hope more and more women will wake up before doing any of that extreme pickme shit.
I have a feeling she had at least one friend or family member tell her not to do this. Not to change herself for a man. But pick mes can be so stubborn. And now she’s stuck with looking this way. For a man who left her!
And these disgusting men; people told us that it's alright if your man follows instagram models and like their posts aS lOnG aS iT's NoT pHiSiCaL and a lot of scrotes and pickmes support this idea, the scrotes because they want to cheat under the excuse that it's not cheating and the women to "keep" these garbage men. Men are the biggest hypocrites, as soon as one wants to do something immoral don't even listen to his excuse as to why and leave his ugly ass ASAP! Men are good at lying about anything and everything, these little snakes can be master manipulators and they're really good at it, be wary.
I was a teen in the 90s, and back then, you were supposed to look like Pam Anderson. So despite being blonde with blue eyes, I was never acceptable because of my big butt. I was a weight lifter and athlete, so my arse wasn't flat, and I never got any attention from males. But I'd never have surgery just to please a man, because men will f*ck anything. And if he doesn't like your body, who f*cking cares? Dump him. I'd just tell him that I'll go get my boobs and butt done right after you get your penile implant. That way, we can both be fake.
My cousin who is 17 tells me her friends are posting thirst traps to get likes are getting messages from 30 plus year old men !! That’s what it’s come to ! This sick ig and porn culture ! Instead being just kids and enjoying childhood these young girls are following influencers who don't give a cent about who is following them and buying make up and ring lights ! Instead of just being teens they being exposed to such predatory older men
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Have you seen many men changing their appearance for the satisfaction of a woman they are dating? Let me guess, you haven't seen them.
Why?
Because when women start going out with them, they get validation from our choices. You picked them despite their ogre appearance and shit personality, so they must be ✨a catch ✨
Women aren't raised with this mentality.
We are taught, that the luxury of self-acceptance is only a man's privilege to enjoy. That only a man can be ugly and still (for some reason) expect beautiful women. Porn and the abundance of free prostitution on social media only reinforces this delusion.
We, on the other hand, are expected to spend our time, money and tears on being forever young and conveniently beautiful.
The problem is not that we are not enough, the problem is nobody will be enough for most of them. And that's ok. Let the trash take itself out.
So, ladies, repeat after me:
I will never change anything in me for a man.
I am enough (more than, actually) the way I am.
I am gorgeous.
I do not owe men shit.
FDS is the only insurance against this bullshit.
1. Women's bodies are not trends
2. This is why we drop guys who thirst after IG models
I've realized that patriarchy THRIVES off of our "insecurities." As Adriana Lima or someone else stated men will fuck anything including a McChicken sandwich lol. I'm really sad, as someone who's a member of gen z that we are so incredibly insecure about our bodies. Now lip filler, BBL, implants are the norm, and its clown shit, these low value men don't care about any of that, due to our pornsick culture they are always on the hunt for something more. Literally Emily fucking Ratajowski got cheated on. You can never win with them.
So much of IG looks like a free porno feed by women who are allowing themselves to be used as unpaid sex workers. I hate it with a passion. I too have been at a low enough point where I considered plastic surgery to make myself more desirable. Fortunately I did not go through with it. This is so sad. It breaks my heart. Women really thinking that if they're just "more perfect" to the depraved male gaze, they'll want to stick around. No. You are an object to them. They do not care. Your relationship is transactional.
I appreciate her message but I can’t help but find her video still somewhat gratuitous. Her video just seems a bit disingenuous. Am I the only one seeing this?
Edit to add: Yep, I had a look at her IG and she is completely disingenuous. Not like she's turned a new leaf and is now using her platform to support and educate young girls from her experience. Nope. She continues to upload "thirst traps" and profits via onlyfans. She is actively contributing to an industry that commodifies and dehumanises women. I have no sympathy for her, she is an adult making a choice at this point.
I feel guilty for not wanting to hear any of her advices nor do I want to blame her for anything but I'm sure a lot of pickmes know atleast one woman with the FDS mindset or who gives FDS advices to them and they shame them and humiliate them until they find out these women were right all along. She's another exemple of why you should never change your body for anyone but I feel like a lot of women live in delusion, I don't mean it to hurt anybody but these ladies really need to put aside their not reciprocated feelings and efforts and think deeply with their brain and/or listen to their intuition. Our feelings can be our biggest enemies in hard situations. I hope more and more women will wake up before doing any of that extreme pickme shit.
I was a teen in the 90s, and back then, you were supposed to look like Pam Anderson. So despite being blonde with blue eyes, I was never acceptable because of my big butt. I was a weight lifter and athlete, so my arse wasn't flat, and I never got any attention from males. But I'd never have surgery just to please a man, because men will f*ck anything. And if he doesn't like your body, who f*cking cares? Dump him. I'd just tell him that I'll go get my boobs and butt done right after you get your penile implant. That way, we can both be fake.
My cousin who is 17 tells me her friends are posting thirst traps to get likes are getting messages from 30 plus year old men !! That’s what it’s come to ! This sick ig and porn culture ! Instead being just kids and enjoying childhood these young girls are following influencers who don't give a cent about who is following them and buying make up and ring lights ! Instead of just being teens they being exposed to such predatory older men