This was a reminder, right?

I met a guy, thought he was cute, didn't really think much of it. Although I know men and women can't really be friends...I think I engaged in one hoping that maybe something would happen, and also to unfortunately just maybe fluff myself up with the feeling of "Look at me, socializing and talking to and hanging out with a cute guy who's fun to be with". I've been friendly with him for a few months and tbh, at first I thought he was being a little bit flirty...maybe I misinterpreted things. Either way, I definitely developed a little bit of a crush. As the weeks went on I got the vibe that he wasn't interested (kept bringing up other women/trying to ask for advice. I always just gave a grey rock answer and tried to move off the topic, hoping he wouldn't ask me again but he had done it about 3-4 times...) Again I thought, you know what, that's fine, whatever, I can just enjoy the attention, right? A few times a week we like to play a video game together online while on the phone. Recently he brought up another girl again...this time suggests maybe she can join, and then follows up with that he wanted to just 'make sure' because 'people get emotional' in group dynamics...especially if it ends up that maybe a couple people might be able to play the game more, or someone doesn't like it, etc. (the example he gave).

This felt like some sort of warning or a reminder - that there will be a dynamic between them that makes me uncomfortable, that I will feel left out, that maybe I will conveniently be unable to join them at the times they want to play, that I'm just the filler person to waste time with. Am I wrong to interpret it that way?

It gave me the ick immediately. Obviously I know to move on, and that this sort of thing does nothing to serve me well. I guess I am just looking for someone to remind me that maybe I wasn't using my whole brain here/shame me a little bit for thinking I could've gotten anything out of this in this way.