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UPDATE: Super-Scrote!! I did some digging (insta, FB, their business blog, etc). He is MARRIED, and he hit on me like that? His wife is beautiful and they have a baby. I wanna barf 🤮 what a POS 🚮
In case anyone takes a Chios yacht cruise from Mykonos, I'll post his pic in the comments so you can avoid the scrote. 😡😡😡
POST: So...I'm in Greece on a solo vacation. The boat captain of my sunset cruise flirted hard with me, and went out of his way to touch me in a non-sexual way. When he asked my name, I told him my name in English and also in Greek. He said "oh I have so many names for you."
Later he offered me a ride on his motorcycle to the ATM and kept asking my plans for the evening. I accepted the offer, and held him lightly on the bike, very conscious that my chest was pressing into his back and my legs around his. He took my hand and put it around his chest a little tighter. After the ATM, I asked him to take me to my hotel because I was tired & jet lagged, and he immediately did.
The next day I bumped into him. He lit up, called my name and we spoke again. I was happy to see him, (he's attractive - hello he's Greek!) but I was reserved. He asked for my business card, and I gave it to him, explaining what I do.
This whole time, his flirting with me was so unexpected that I was pretty reserved with him.
Ok here is the problem. I want to put him in the solid scrote category. I mean, the pickup line about names? Also he sees thousands of tourists every year and probably hits on every woman on his boat.
But there's a small part of me that wants to believe I am special, that there is something to it. I thought I was immune to men. I've been single for quite a while now and very content. And I think I'm pretty realistic about how many terrible men there are (thanks FDS! 🤩). But this one man (who I find attractive) gave me attention, and I fell apart. Wth?!
You're on vacation. He sees you as an easy fling. Nothing more.
Have some safe fun, take it as the ego boost it is, but once you leave expect to NEVER hear from him again. He's probably doing this to every reasonably attractive woman he comes across. Proceed accordingly.
"But there's a small part of me that wants to believe I am special, that there is something to it."
This is normal, don't beat yourself up for this magical thinking, it's cultural conditioning.
Don't go into any situation expecting to be the exception. There's a 99% chance he's a loser and you'll never see him again. Act accordingly.
I do caution you, as a solo female traveller in Greece, to be mindful of your surroundings. It's a very misognyistic culture and it's the only country I've ever felt unsafe as a woman. I watch lots of true crime and Greece is one spot where soooo many women get raped/murdered and the authorities won't do anything since it's such a misognynistic culture. Be careful and don't go anywhere alone with this guy or any other guy.
Yikes on a bike! Thanks for the warning. I will be cautious.
Also, I love your comment not to beat myself up over the conditioning. You're right - 99% odds he's a loser.
I'm mostly in shock that I reacted at all - I truly thought I was immune to male attention. Guess not
Greek men are disgusting. Abuse and misogyny is their oldest tradition.
I'm sure you are gorgeous and he found you very attractive but as someone that travels to Europe often for work I feel like male attention is worth even less in Europe lol. I get hit on constantly by European men even when I'm doing routine things like grocery shopping. I had a grocery store worker tell me I was beautiful and had "bewitched" him while he was helping me with the self check out. Like sir I'm just trying to buy groceries... I don't know European men I've just noticed are way way more flirty than American men. I'd say have fun be careful and use his attention if you want to have a fun vacation. But I really wouldn't read too much into it.
If you were taking a boat ride in your own country and a male from your country acted the way he acted, would you be as receptive?
It’s impossible to be immune to men. It’s easy to think you are, when you’ve seen all the tricks and tactics they use and you know it ends badly. But then you meet someone with an accent and different mannerisms and you somehow think he’s not just another man. Just because he does something other men haven’t, doesn’t mean he won’t cheat or lie.
I was in the same predicament years ago with a Spanish barman. Totally unexpected. Yeah of course he’s a professional flirt but I felt like a sexy woman again, wanted, needed….seen! There’s nothing wrong with feeling that fire 🔥 again. This barman gave me the evening of my life, drove me to see more of the area, took me dancing in a small Spanish local bar, we drank mojitos and we fucked on the beach, he even dusted the sand from my feet after and helped with my clothes lol! I put myself in danger doing this I know. But man…he sorted everything, paid, catered to me, aroused me and I felt sexy at! Just take protection just in case !!
You’ll know what to do x
Good question! I'm not sure.
If he was attractive and fit (like this guy), and showed interest like that, maybe? And if it was a really nice boat lol.
But I'm sure his accent and the exotic location have something to do with it. And when I'm traveling I'm generally more open to adventure and new experiences. Thank you for the good observation.
His pic. Stay away.