Every man's dream - get a maid, chef, barista, sex worker, wife, hostess, stylist, laundrywoman, and I guess she pays for some of the rent and utilities - while he gains more money and work experience - for the price of a girlfriend.
He can walk out on her in an instant, with no social stigma ("she was only my gf man"), leaving her with an unimplementable resume gap and no alimony.
Thank you for sharing this!! I was actually just thinking about this dangerous new trend happening with Gen Zs and younger than that women. On the outside this looks “glamorous” and especially living in late-stage capitalism where many of us burned out from being over worked many women want to tap out. They want to be provided for, cared for and taken care of. And this feeling and desire is valid.
But this is actually quite dangerous as this another way for patriarchy to control women. Patriarchy is aware of the financial freedom, high earning potential and education women possess. This means that many women in the millennial, Gen X generation don’t NEED to rely financially on a man. Heck some are even out earning men despite the gender pay gap. And because of this many women can comfortably be single or divorce as they can provide a life for themselves.
The “stay at home” girlfriend trend is making young women lose the ability to build their career and thus lose their potential earning potential. Even if the boyfriend is being “generous” she still is at his beck and call. He still controls her and she is essentially in servitude and he is ensuring the longer she “stays at home” the longer she’ll be out of the job market and the less job experience and capital standing she’ll possess. If the scrote leaves her not only does he not face financial or social repructions (as she's "just a GF") he’s also helping other men by making one less woman outearn them.
Ladies it is so important to be financially stable on your own. Even if you meet a HVM and marry him and you decide to stay at home, you’ve gotta have a plan B ready to go. Whether that’s taking courses/classes (online or in person), working part-time/casual, developing a work from home business and/or building side hustle. If the marriage was to go south you have to have a way out- a plan ready to go.
Wow, besides being obviously dangerous to her long-term well-being, this looks mind-numbingly boring. Who wants to make drinks and clean all day??? You can only drink so many matcha lattes every day!?! She’s like a stifled, trapped 1950s housewife without even the few protections of marriage. Where are her friends and hobbies? I can’t see how anyone could feel happy and fulfilled living like this. I feel sad for her.
The only thing wrong with this arrangement is that he can fire her at any time and she has no recourse. She is a maid/barista and her boyfriend compensates her by paying the bills. She probably cannot afford this lifestyle on her own so for the short term it is a good arrangement for her.
But she will be afraid to leave and she is more vulnerable to getting strung along.
First I made a coffee for Luke, then I unpacked Luke’s suitcase and then I made lunch for Luke and then I talked with Luke and then I journaled about Luke and then I went to bed and had a dream about Luke
If you’re gonna do this, you need to be stacking his cash behind his back for the day when he leaves you, and it would be best to start a business or two while you’re with him so that when he inevitably gets tired of you, you have a job to fall back on and no gaps in your resume, because you had your own business. Even if it’s just a passive business of reselling things, make it happen. I see nothing wrong with a woman being provided for, but just remember the ride always ends at the fun park.
I was literally talking to someone about this stay at home gf trend that’s been going on on tik tok!
first of all I can’t believe so many young women do this! Or at least seem to. I always wonder what is she gonna do when they break up?!
he doesn’t owe her anything. She’s just a gf. If they were married I could see this work. If that’s what she wanted to do. At least if they’re married she’d have some protection.
I do know a woman who is a stay at home wife, they are a Child free couple and she controls their finances. They are MARRIED so she will be fine if they ever divorce. That’s the smart way to do it
When I was furloughed from work because of the pandemic I would joke I was a stay at home girlfriend and my bf now fiance would joke I was a house cat because I was very important with very little to do (a line from madmen I thought was funny). I really can't imagine doing all that stuff just because I was furloughed...
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Nov 26, 2022
I didnt watch the whole thing. Cut to the chase: *how many* decades older is the trash man? No amount of money is worth cozying up to some geriatric peen at 25.
Paused at what she writes in her planner. It's very sad
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Nov 27, 2022
oooh i'l LOVE to be a stay-at-home girlfriend! i'd stay at my own home and clean my own dirt and make my own lattes that i would gladly drink and i would, above all, care for myself. then i'd go out to see the boyfriend and i'd come back home. what a dream!!
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Every man's dream - get a maid, chef, barista, sex worker, wife, hostess, stylist, laundrywoman, and I guess she pays for some of the rent and utilities - while he gains more money and work experience - for the price of a girlfriend.
He can walk out on her in an instant, with no social stigma ("she was only my gf man"), leaving her with an unimplementable resume gap and no alimony.
Thank you for sharing this!! I was actually just thinking about this dangerous new trend happening with Gen Zs and younger than that women. On the outside this looks “glamorous” and especially living in late-stage capitalism where many of us burned out from being over worked many women want to tap out. They want to be provided for, cared for and taken care of. And this feeling and desire is valid.
But this is actually quite dangerous as this another way for patriarchy to control women. Patriarchy is aware of the financial freedom, high earning potential and education women possess. This means that many women in the millennial, Gen X generation don’t NEED to rely financially on a man. Heck some are even out earning men despite the gender pay gap. And because of this many women can comfortably be single or divorce as they can provide a life for themselves.
The “stay at home” girlfriend trend is making young women lose the ability to build their career and thus lose their potential earning potential. Even if the boyfriend is being “generous” she still is at his beck and call. He still controls her and she is essentially in servitude and he is ensuring the longer she “stays at home” the longer she’ll be out of the job market and the less job experience and capital standing she’ll possess. If the scrote leaves her not only does he not face financial or social repructions (as she's "just a GF") he’s also helping other men by making one less woman outearn them.
Ladies it is so important to be financially stable on your own. Even if you meet a HVM and marry him and you decide to stay at home, you’ve gotta have a plan B ready to go. Whether that’s taking courses/classes (online or in person), working part-time/casual, developing a work from home business and/or building side hustle. If the marriage was to go south you have to have a way out- a plan ready to go.
Wow, besides being obviously dangerous to her long-term well-being, this looks mind-numbingly boring. Who wants to make drinks and clean all day??? You can only drink so many matcha lattes every day!?! She’s like a stifled, trapped 1950s housewife without even the few protections of marriage. Where are her friends and hobbies? I can’t see how anyone could feel happy and fulfilled living like this. I feel sad for her.
I feel like I lost brain cells watching that.🥹.
The only thing wrong with this arrangement is that he can fire her at any time and she has no recourse. She is a maid/barista and her boyfriend compensates her by paying the bills. She probably cannot afford this lifestyle on her own so for the short term it is a good arrangement for her.
But she will be afraid to leave and she is more vulnerable to getting strung along.
If you’re gonna do this, you need to be stacking his cash behind his back for the day when he leaves you, and it would be best to start a business or two while you’re with him so that when he inevitably gets tired of you, you have a job to fall back on and no gaps in your resume, because you had your own business. Even if it’s just a passive business of reselling things, make it happen. I see nothing wrong with a woman being provided for, but just remember the ride always ends at the fun park.
Who's gonna tell her?
Oh, I love fiction.
This would be a nightmare for me. I could do all these things if I was getting paid through a legitimate job otherwise no
I was literally talking to someone about this stay at home gf trend that’s been going on on tik tok!
first of all I can’t believe so many young women do this! Or at least seem to. I always wonder what is she gonna do when they break up?!
he doesn’t owe her anything. She’s just a gf. If they were married I could see this work. If that’s what she wanted to do. At least if they’re married she’d have some protection.
I do know a woman who is a stay at home wife, they are a Child free couple and she controls their finances. They are MARRIED so she will be fine if they ever divorce. That’s the smart way to do it
When I was furloughed from work because of the pandemic I would joke I was a stay at home girlfriend and my bf now fiance would joke I was a house cat because I was very important with very little to do (a line from madmen I thought was funny). I really can't imagine doing all that stuff just because I was furloughed...
I didnt watch the whole thing. Cut to the chase: *how many* decades older is the trash man? No amount of money is worth cozying up to some geriatric peen at 25.
This trend is making me crazy!
Paused at what she writes in her planner. It's very sad
oooh i'l LOVE to be a stay-at-home girlfriend! i'd stay at my own home and clean my own dirt and make my own lattes that i would gladly drink and i would, above all, care for myself. then i'd go out to see the boyfriend and i'd come back home. what a dream!!