Reminder - This Is What Happens When You Try To Work Things Out With That LV/NVEx

Hi, everyone I hope your weekend went well. I just wanted to emphasize there is a lot of rhetoric surrounding ex's and 'situationships', and especially 'FWB' making rounds.

I feel like many young women are being put-down for being out of relationships for too long, and also due to socio-economic reasons I see the re-emergence of 'fwb' being commonplace.

I find this is LV's NV men's way of keeping us in our place, or at the very least, reminding women we cannot have 'all our so-called unrealistic standards fulfilled', and then to add further insult they say 'why is she single for so long and she's young?'.

For reference, I'm 25 now and I've been single since 2020 due to personal reasons (mourning my cat, brother and also trying to finish school, which I'm embarrassingly behind in) and have been facing so many friends saying just get into a 'fwb' as if it's nothing? My ex left me in the middle of moving, discouraged school, and dismissed my dreams in general. Also, I got really fat with him.

Either way, perhaps due to social media and friend groups (3/4 of which was are coupled off) telling to msg him back after emailed and reached out.

I ended up giving my number and he called but was super flirty and while that was flattering, he didn't address anything more than surface level about our relationship.

Fast forward a week and we're talking closely, and he keeps hinting wanting to sleepover (I live on my own) I found this upsetting as he would always leave for work the moment he finished sleeping with me. Also there was A LOT I wanted to discuss before just jumping into bed with an ex. I found out he had two girlfriends since, I've chosen to stay away from relationships since 2020 due to personal reasons.

So after dodging the things I was saying I just decided to text all the issues and everything wrong. Afterwards he didn't own up to it, but said goodbye cordially.

I feel this is confirmation that an ex will always damage your life, and it doesn't matter if they're they seem to have changed and are doing better (career wise, he's an engineer) because they will always have ill-intentions towards you.

Because I know I can eat humble pie, I posted the full convo, and I regret being a fool for saying so much. Totally my fault, I need to not overshare so much.

They don't want an explanation, they don't care, they JUST want to sleep with you ASAP, and not give a shit about your well-being while doing it. (Like the whole 'they like our body parts but not us')

Now said pick-me friends don't even care how I'm doing, they only care that I'm going alone to the Halloween party. Tell you everything about couples who KEEP insisting you get into a relationship.

This is a sign don't listen to that Olivia Rodrigo song, and don't listen to your pick-me friends who are paired up. The breakup happened for a reason. Stop glamourizing ex's and fwbs and all that nonsense. It's b.s for male crumbs. I should know, I fell for it I'm just embarrassed I said so much when he clearly was a coward and didn't care Lesson Learned

Sorry for the second-hand cringe you might get from reading my long text. Never again.

Sorry for the headache that is this post, the screenshots are in reverse. (Andriod phone sry)