LVM will take and take

Please use this post as a lesson learnt. I ignored red flags in a relationship of 4 months.

I've just ended this relationship after finding out:

• he was seeing prostitutes before he dated me and never had been std tested in his life (this is why the handbook always says to ask for proof before becoming official)

• he texted his ex when we were dating to catch up for drinks because "she was leaving the county for good" and "needed closure". they dated for 6 months in 2019 and continued to "catch up" since according to the texts I found in his phone (this is why the handbook says to check his phone as soon as possible. Had I seen these I could have dropped him in December when he replied to her)

• I would cry/beg for communication when he would blow hot and cold 🤡

• he wanted to lock me down asap into a relationship and asked if I was seeing other men early on (another red flag)

• still living with his parents. His mother kept telling him off for "never being home" when he would stay at my house. She immediately blocked me on Facebook when I dropped her son.

• enmeshed parents, kept up talking their son when I had met them which was another red flag. "My son is everything" vibes.

• called his ex controlling and abusive. found out last week this was because he would cancel plans with her and see friends instead.

• Bad hygiene, never showered in the morning after staying at my house.

Whilst this is a long list of venting, I was in a good place before I dated this dusty guy and gave him a chance 🤡 despite him being medium ugly.

This guy took and took. Please be vigilant and read the handbook. It is something I should have been doing.

Here's to healing ❤️‍🩹