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I'm beginning to get pick-me vibes from this women I meet once a week at tennis club.
Idk, but my pick-me senses are "tingling".
These are the signs and instances that I picked up on over 2 years of being within proximity with her.
She enjoys being in the presence of attractive men. At first, I just thought she was a good player and she only plays with the male players because they can match her strength. She would get annoyed when players can't match her strength. But I was wrong, she actually dropped playing with one of the guys because the other player was much attractive and younger. During the whole game, I saw him fumbling and being really slow. She endured it all. If it was another player, I'd often see her get annoyed and switch players.
She gives off outsider, "I'm not like other girls" vibes by describing herself as a tomboy, and how she doesn't like female company because she doesn't like the gossiping, or talking.
She once stated that she never wanted kids or a family, but life didn't go as planned and she just ended up with them. In general, she said that she wanted to work and just live child free and a husband free life, and that much I understand. I remembered thinking that she was such a "badass" with her career and radical thoughts. Now, I thinking that she there may be some deeper issues.
She bashed the Barbie movie. She thinks it's like people being "woke" or trendy to watch the movie.
Mentioned that male tennis coaches are much more capable than female coaches.
She did this one female player so dirty. The club had odd number players. She ended up approaching the group and asked three male players as team members, and basically told the girl to "kick rocks", because they were already a group with four players. The poor girl ended up playing with us and the boys between rotations.
On one occasion, after tennis club, I see her with this married guy just sitting on a bench hanging out instead of going home to their respective families. After this event, his wife showed up and played as his partner to keep a close eye on them. Now, she rarely lets him play with her or other female players.
I talked to my mom about this and we find it funny. I come home with stories about her and we both agree that she's definitely not a "girl's girl".
Today, I told my mom that she and I were the first ones at tennis club, and we had a mundane conversation about our week, but when a guy a showed up, she basically stopped talking to me mid-conversation to talk to the dude, and she also drove him home after tennis. My mother and I had a good laugh. It would make sense if a guy drove a girl home as friends, since he's being a gentleman, but it doesn't make sense for a grownass women with a husband and kids to go out of her way and drive a dude she plays tennis with home.
My mom's just like, there are woman in this world that are so boy crazy they'd drop everything and forget who they are all for a guy. In addition, had she not been married, it would have been perfectly fine that she approached all these guys, and enjoyed the male presence. But my mother finds her insane that a married women would engage in such behaviour.
My mother also said that women who don't like being in the company of other women feel threatened and judged by the group of women. Personally, I don't agree with this statement since I would always try to find other girl groups if I felt like I was not welcomed into their circle.
At first, I admired her for thoughts about being child free, and I thought she was a feminist. But now, she reminds me of the female version of Robert De Niro in Dirty Grandpa, and Leonardo Di Caprio dating tendencies/preferences.
Stop talking to her, you don't owe her an explantion.
Holy f this woman isn’t just a bit of a pickme - she’s also immoral. This woman is negative value for you, cut her out of your life. No explanation, just distance and avoidance. She can keep living her “other women are bad” narrative.
Seems kinda obvious that she is using the tennis club to find hookups outside of her marriage.
I have regretted befriending people who cheat on their spouse. They are morally flawed and that trait inevitably spills over into other parts of their life.
I've learned one hard, fast rule through experience and learning about the experiences of other women: Any woman, no exception, who talks about how she doesn't get along with other women, accuses other women of showing stereotypically negative feminine traits (gossiping, shallow, backstabbing, "bitchy", overly sensitive, attention seeking, slutty, etc) she is telling you exactly what she thinks about other women INCLUDING YOU regardless of who you actually are. She'll interpret everything you do through her biased lens because she thinks it will distance her from what the patriarchy has told her who she is as a woman. These types of women are dangerous as they'll justify their abusive behavior towards you (or other women) and not feel a shred of guilt - after all, you deserved it. They are 100% guilty of all of the drama they claim other women start.
I don't know what you want us to say about this.
She's a pickme, so distance yourself from her. That much should be obvious. But I think you sound a bit too obsessed with her. Maybe you should examine why you're so obsessed with a 50-something pickme who doesn't have much going on for herself and plays such a small role in your life.
Your mom is right about women who feel judged by women. It's usually her own ✨projection✨
This kind of woman judges other women and thinks that other women judge her too. Human mind is interesting lol.
That's the kind of chick who would leave you at a bar after your drink got spiked or something. Or let a guy take you home. Pickmes are dangerous politically, but socially as well. Who knows what she might put you through.
There are many many of these type pick-me Gen X women in their 50s. Their mindset is living within male scarcity due to choosing to attach and identify with patriarchy as "protection". They immediately fawn over moids/scrotes and throw other women, even themselves lol, under the bus to please moids.
It's not a good look for her and is an indication she has little capacity for self awareness.
The biggest tell is always when they say the famous "other women are too much drama". 😂
I usually don't debate them ever because they have no self awareness. Keep observing these type of women as they're like my example of what not to do in life.
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