having crushes on men don’t benefit me

You're right. The vast majority of men will ask a woman out if they are interested in her. The fact that he hasn't asked you out implies he's not interested in you. It's not that different from how a company interested in hiring you after a job interview will give you a job offer and the fact that you haven't heard back from them in a long time implies they didn't pick you. Back when I was unwoke, I took initiative in flirting and trying to get the attention of the men I was interested in. It turns out all of them are taken and the men either used me for attention or avoided me. I lost so much dignity in the process as I unknowingly became "the other women". Nowadays if I find myself being very attracted to a guy, I just maintain boundaries with him unless he makes a move. If he wanted to, he would. Also, if I am interested in a guy, chances are many other women feel the same about him so he's probably taken and it's best to play it safe.

At the moment I rarely get approached irl. When I got asked out irl in the past usually by players or creepy men. Now in bit of a catch 22 because I refuse to use dating apps but men rarely ask me out irl. Guys I met IRl would ask me out via LinkedIn out of all places lol I don't ever have crushes, if I like someone we usually just got together. But present day, doesn't happen that way anymore. Even if a guy is interested it still means needing to give all the signs I won't reject him (smiling like a loon and batting my eyelashes) for him to even approach. The thing is I might not have exchanged one word with a guy. He might look attractive but he might not be my type personality and actually some hot guys can be creepy. A lot of guys in my city are scared to ask someone out it seems unless it's online. Either that or I've got the best fuck off face lol

Exactly. Men know exactly what they want and who they want, and act accordingly. They're not mysterious like the media has tried to show us, they're incredibly black and white creatures, actually. If he doesn't talk to you, it's quite literally because he doesn't like you like that. If he doesn't call you, if he doesn't text you, if he doesn't take you out, he's just not that into you, full stop.

Just think of your crushes as fun fantasies not actually a guy who'd be in a relationship with you. I've never once had a guy I had a crush on like me back. I think that's why it's called a "crush." It's because if it were mutual, he'd already have asked you out. I think it's okay to have a crush, but try not to think it's gonna be anything in real life and also don't make much effort besides being friendly if he engages with you. Men automatically assume women that talk to them first like them, so you don't want to put yourself in a lower position right off the bat. You'd be better off flirting with other men you don't like around the guy that you do like, since sexual competition would be more likely to rev up some interest in you instead of just flirting with him directly which turns men off. Think about it. Most guys have a crush on 1 of the 8 cheerleaders in the entire high school, and they want that girl because every other guy wants her, too. Sexual competition is the best way to make it to where a man might commit to you.

I was stupid couple weeks ago and crushed on a guy. I tend to get bored super easily so I thought its just for fun no biggie. I was so wrong because I knew it would never work and end up in a relationship. We are too different. I dont even want to date but I still ended up hurt when I clearly saw that he is not like me in many ways. The only good thing is, I am now at the total opposite point and dont think about any man at all lol.